Obstruction Of Justice – Public Statement

To: Kwong Kai Li (Clementi DIvision)

On 2 Nov 2023, I made the police report (D/20231102/7006) naming the following police officers:

• Sulaiman Raji Mohamad (Chief Investigation Officer)
• Muhammad Asrin Kamaruddin (Inspector)
• I/O Teo (unknown)

as committing the offence of Obstruction of Justice (Section 204A (Chapter 224, 2008 Revised Ed)) by deliberating telling untruths to cover and conceal an offence under Section 182 of the Penal Code committed against me (reported in D20210422/7006).  I also named

• Senior Staff Sergeant Bai Qian Hui
• Muhammad Khairuldin Bin Saiman

as being aware of Inspector Muhammad Asrin Kamaruddin’s efforts to mislead me, and therefore potential accomplices to his crime.

The report was made on 02 Nov 2023. On 24 Nov 2023 via the SPF Feedback system I reminded Clementi Division of the case. It has been more than four months ever since the report and you have not yet contacted me to take my first statement or obtain the recording of Chief Investigation Officer Sulaiman Raji Mohamad lying in the phone conversation in his attempt to convince me the 182 did not occur.

Since this is a matter of public interest, I am making my public statement on the details of the offences here. This should save you the hassle of contacting me to take the first statement from me, yes? You’re welcome…

1) Definitions

Obstruction of Justice

204A.  Whoever does an act that has a tendency to obstruct, prevent, pervert or defeat the course of justice —

(a)          knowing that the act is likely to obstruct, prevent, pervert or defeat the course of justice; or

(b)          intending to obstruct, prevent, pervert or defeat the course of justice,

shall be guilty of an offence and shall on conviction be punished with imprisonment for a term which may extend to 7 years, or with fine, or with both.

“In my view, if an accused person is aware or has reason to believe that some wrongdoing has been or may have been committed, whether by himself or by some other person(s), and consequently takes steps to somehow thwart or prevent the investigation into or the prosecution of the wrongdoing, he is guilty of an offence under Section 204A.” – Justice Tay Yong Kwang (2021, SGHC 200)

2) Background

On 19 Oct 2020, I called for police assistance over a case of wrongful confinement (Section 340). Sometime after being interviewed by the responding police, I was first informed that I was accused of carrying a baton (a weapon I am not permitted to possess or bear on my person) and, after being searched for weapons, of outrage of modesty. Officers from the Serious Sexual Crimes Branch confirmed the accusation of outrage of modesty after interviewing my accuser. (D20201019/0128) They expressed the intent to arrest me but changed their minds after I gave my statement and produced evidence proving that the accusations were false (thus demonstrating that an offence has been committed under Section 182 of the Singapore Penal Code).

3) Events

22 Apr 2021 – I made a police report about the wrongful confinement (Sect 340), the false accusations of carrying a controlled weapon on my person and outrage of modesty (Sect 182) and subsequent attempts to intimidate me to silence via threats of legal action (D20210422/7003).

22 Apr 2021 – a woman claiming to be I/O Teo from Clementi Division called me and claimed that my accuser retracted her accusation of molest when the police on the scene clarified the terms with her, that she did not mean molest the way the police understood it to mean. The presence and words of the Serious Sexual Crimes Branch officers present that night show that I/O Teo was lying.

Even if my accuser actually did retract her accusation after being confronted by the Serious Sexual Crimes Branch officers after they took my statement and collected evidence from me, the fact remains; the false report had been made, the offence under Section 182 of the Penal Code is complete. Therefore I/O Teo has attempted to mislead me about the events surrounding the 182 offence committed on 19 Oct 2020.

16 Jul 2021 – Inspector Muhammad Asrin Kamaruddin conducted the interview for taking the first statement for my report. During that interview, he asked general questions about how I related with my accuser but asked no questions about the wrongful confinement, and the false accusations both of weapon carrying and outrage of modesty (such as where or when the offence was alleged to take place). He then claimed that there was absolutely no mention of molest at all from my accuser that night.

Again, the presence & words of the Serious Sexual Crimes Branch officers present that night showed this inspector from the Clementi Division General Investigation Squad to have lied in an attempt to cover up a crime already committed and reported.

Let me explain the following not for you (I’m sure you are aware of this) but for the general public: By Inspector Muhammad Asrin Kamaruddin keeping the interview questions away from the events of 19 Oct 2020, the end result would be that the police system would see:

a)            22 April 2021 – I made a police report about specific crimes committed on 19 Oct 2020,

b)            16 July 2021 – In my statement I made no reference to those crimes previously mentioned but spoke instead about how I related with my accuser

That would easily cause superiors reading the statements to conclude that my original report was not because of actual specific crimes committed against me but just as me using (misusing, abusing) police reports to vent about matters not under police jurisdiction.

After Inspector Muhammad Asrin Kamaruddin made his claim that there was absolutely no accusation of molest on the night of 19 Oct 2020 (Gesturing toward the laptop upon where Senior Staff Sergeant Bai Qian Hui was typing the records for the interview, “If I could only just turn that laptop around to show you, you would see that there was no accusation of molest made whatsoever!”) I brought up the words of the responding police officers and Serious Sexual Crimes Branch officers that night. With that the Inspector left the interview room.

Senior Staff Sergeant Bai Qian Hui was present for that session, taking notes for the interview. She then presented to me the statement of the interview, which contained a reasonable representation of my answers to the Inspector’s gossipy questions, but totally left out my responses to him about the words of the responding police and the Serious Sexual Crimes Branch officers. I had to insist on those points being included in the statement before I signed it.

02 Nov 2021 – Sulaiman Raji Mohamad (Chief Investigation Officer) called me. And at 5:35 of that phone call, he too lied that there was no accusation of molest that night. And when I reminded him of the presence & words of the Serious Sexual Crime Branch officers he tried to convince me that it did not matter.

The following audio is taken from 5:00 to 8:40 of the phone call – http://sndup.net/rhfh I invite you and the general public to hear for yourselves how Sulaiman Raji Mohamad first attempted to evade the plain question I put to him (Was there an accusation of molest that night, yes or no?) (1 and 2), blatantly lie (3), act blur (4 and 5) and then claim the 182 didn’t matter (6).

1.            “I did not say the molest word came out what. I was just referring to what you have alleged. And your allegation.” – he did not want to admit that the molest accusation happened.

2.            “If she alleged molest then there would be a different form of action taken against you, right?” – This is an attempt to evade my question.

3.            “There was no allegation of molest what.”

4.            “They say they were not called up? No, I don’t get you. On that day when you called, when she called for the police…”

5.            “Who told you that she accused you of molest?” – All this information was already in my report

6.            “She could have termed it in a different way. Whatever she wants to allege, up to her. She can allege whatever she wants to allege. But the point I want to make to you is, our investigation never conclude that there was a case of molestation here.”

I/O Teo, Inspector Muhammad Asrin Kamaruddin and Sulaiman Raji Mohamad attempting to mislead me and denying that the false accusation happened in the first place have thus clearly committed acts likely to obstruct, prevent, pervert or defeat the course of justice. The fact they had to claim the accusation did not happen in the first place suggests that police records show very clearly that the accusation was made and I very clearly refuted it.

Do those officers from the Clementi Division General Investigation Squad regularly lie to cover up for crimes committed? Or was this a unique occurrence, arising because one or more of the officers involved was offered gratifications to cover up the 182 committed against me? If CPIB finds no evidence of corruption with these officers, does that mean these officers obstruct justice and cover up for crimes solely because they condone dishonesty? Are such people supposed to even be part of the Singapore Police Force in the first place?

Other Officers Involved – Senior Staff Sergeant Bai Qian Hui. She was present taking notes for the interview conducted by Inspector Muhammad Asrin Kamaruddin on 16 July 2021. She was also the I/O in charge of D20201019/0128 and thus fully aware of the details of the false accusations as well as at whatever points Inspector Muhammad Asrin Kamaruddin attempted to mislead me. After Inspector Muhammad Asrin Kamaruddin claimed there was no accusation of molest and I reminded him of the Serious Sexual Crimes Branch officers, SSG Bai Qian Hui initially left my reply on the Serious Sexual Crime Branch officers out of the statement. I had to insist before she included it.

Did she at any point after 16 July 2021 bring up her concerns about Inspector Muhammad Asrin Kamaruddin’s dishonesty to any of the superiors above him in the chain of command? If not, it looks like she was complicit in the cover-up of the obstruction of justice.

Muhammad Khairuldin Bin Saiman was the I/O assigned to my report. He was therefore aware of the actions of I/O Teo and Inspector Muhammad Asrin Kamaruddin. He totally did not seek to take the first statement from me, ignored all my offers to provide information for the investigations and refused to answer any questions about the details of my case.

By the time of the email sent to him on 12 Aug 2021, he was aware that there were irregularities in how Inspector Muhammad Asrin Kamaruddin and I/O Teo were handling the case. Did he investigate and bring up the matter to any of his superiors further up the chain of command? Or did he just bury his head in the sand and hope that since he shoved the case over to Inspector Muhammad Asrin Kamaruddin, he would not be held responsible for any irregularities that come to light later?

If that is so, he doesn’t seem capable of or interested in doing real investigation work to me.

Moreover, by shoving his responsibility over to Inspector that he has been made aware of irregularities over, rather than reporting the matter to someone else more senior in the investigation branch, we can see it as trying to prevent investigation into Inspector Muhammad Asrin Kamaruddin‘s actions. According to the words of Justice Tay Yong Kwang (2021, SGHC 200) that would make him too guilty of an offence under Section 204A. Again, I quote:

“In my view, if an accused person is aware or has reason to believe that some wrongdoing has been or may have been committed, whether by himself or by some other person(s), and consequently takes steps to somehow thwart or prevent the investigation into or the prosecution of the wrongdoing, he is guilty of an offence under Section 204A.” – Justice Tay Yong Kwang (2021, SGHC 200)

So, in summary;

Inspector Muhammad Asrin Kamaruddin and Sulaiman Raji Mohamad (Chief Investigation Officer) lied blatantly to cover up for a crime. Will the Singapore Police Force look into this matter or will these officers be allowed to continue to lie to the public with impunity?

I was of course hoping that the Singapore Police Force would take this report seriously and commence proper investigations into this matter. Given the months in which you totally ignored this report, we can safely infer that Clementi Division General Investigation Squad wishes to sweep this matter under the carpet. But the issues are weighty. A Chief Investigation Officer and an Inspector have been caught lying in their official capacity, and lying specifically to cover up a crime committed.

If Sulaiman Raji Mohamad and Inspector Muhammad Asrin Kamaruddin are capable of telling bold-faced lies to cover a clear-cut 182 offence, this suggests:

• To them, section 182 is a joke, a section of the law they refuse to take seriously as part of their official duties as officers of the Singapore Police Force. The sanctity of the police report is thus thrown out the window and Clementi Division enforces Section 182 purely on their whims and fancies. Won’t this further embolden dishonest people to make false reports?
• It also means that the general public cannot trust Singapore Police Force officers to not lie to them to evade doing work and cover up crime. That means we cannot trust the SPF at all. Would that not eventually turn Singapore into a lawless society?
• If Sulaiman Raji Mohamad and Inspector Muhammad Asrin Kamaruddin are capable of lying to cover up a crime both they and I know was committed, how many other such obvious crimes have they already covered up before by lying shamelessly to members of the public?

Conclusion:

I/O Kwong Kai Li, the authority and responsibility to conduct actual investigations is a privilege extended to you by the Singapore Police Force, the Singapore government by extension and thus by the citizens of Singapore. In our secular society, it is the closest thing to a sacred trust, a holy calling. So far your refusal to even commence investigation into this case of obstruction of justice by fellow SPF officers is utterly irresponsible, charitably speaking. You make me wonder if you refuse to commence investigations into my allegations against Sulaiman Raji Mohamad (Chief Investigation Officer), Muhammad Asrin Kamaruddin (Inspector), I/O Teo (unknown), Senior Staff Sergeant Bai Qian Hui and Muhammad Khairuldin Bin Saiman because you know I am speaking the truth on this matter, truth that you do not wish to face up to.

If you are not interested in real investigation work into real crimes, then either go join NPCC or just stop LARP-ing as a police officer. If you still enjoy cosplaying in a police uniform, a career in Aetos or Certis Cisco may be more suitable for you. I suggest you make the arrangements to have my case handed over to police officers who actually want to genuinely investigate matters, then make your career switch soonest so that you stop wasting my time and wasting taxpayer money on your salary.

In the meantime I shall keep this public statement up on my blog (with the audio recording) as a warning to the general public to be careful in all their dealings with the Singapore Police Force, especially in dealings with officers from Clementi Division.

Should you wish to fulfil your duty and responsibility as an officer of the Singapore Police Force, then we can arrange to meet so that you can take the First Statement from me and obtain the full recording of the phone conversation mentioned in this report. You have my email address and can contact me that way. The ball is in your court now, Kwong Kai Li.

Lying About Molest – Lesson 06

If Your Case Goes to Trial

This season when you are under investigation, and you know there is a chance you will have to go to court over the false accusations made against you, is often a time of great oppression and uncertainty. A lot of that comes from the unknown – you’ve never been investigated for any criminal accusations before, and if you spent your life as a decent, law-abiding citizen who tried your best to stay out of trouble, being maliciously accused of a crime you did not commit hits even harder.

I am here to not only give you a sense of what to expect, but also my advice on how to best prepare for what lies ahead.

Remember, in Lesson 01 I pointed out that a 182 woman is trying to use the Singapore Police Force, the Courts and society at large to ruin your life. Her false accusations can lead to:

• Being arrested and detained
• Career being stalled, put on hold or even destroyed
• Family relationships damaged or destroyed
• Reputation in society being ruined
• Legal Fees – Dr Yeo Sow Nam paid $600,000 in legal fees over 4 years
• Jail (up to 3 years), caning, fine

Therefore, between now and your court trial you will need to systematically maintain and nurture all the vital aspects of your life while preparing to be at your strongest emotionally, mentally and physically for the court trial. By laying out all these aspects before you, I reduce the crippling uncertainty to tasks that are much more manageable. At any time you feel paralyzed, confused or lost, just come back to this lesson and see what you have been missing out.

Getting A Lawyer

Navigating the courts is like surgery; you can read up on it and watch all the instructional videos you can find, but when it’s your life at stake it isn’t wise to be the one trying to cut open your own body and fix the problems within. Likewise when you are accused of any crime. Anyone with an internet connection can read up the various laws in the Singapore Penal Code, but when you need to know how judges have decided on similar situations like yours in previous cases, that is when a lawyer comes in.

As a rule of thumb, you can say that once the facts of the case are established (who did what, when, where and why), the argument in court then becomes which of the past cases is most similar to your case right now, in terms of details and principles, and therefore sets the precedent (example) of how the judge ought to rule on your case.

This is why an experienced lawyer is more valuable – he or she will have seen enough past cases and read of even more to be able to make a more compelling argument to the judge why the judge ought to rule in favour of his or her client.

One thing you need to bear in mind when choosing a lawyer: in Singapore, we have an entire industry of lawyers and law firms that make a living just from handling the buying and selling of HDB flats alone. They may be able to help you in matters that are mainly procedural (admin work, making sure all the right boxes are ticked) but they may not be your best bet when you are facing criminal charges and you need a lawyer experienced in court trials.

Lawyers aren’t right all the time. Sometimes they err on the side of cowardice. One example I can give you off hand – an old friend of mine married a foreign woman, who later divorced him and took their daughter away from him, all the while living off the child support and maintenance. Recently she came back and had lawyers write to him demanding that he pay for child support the kind of sums that allow a Singaporean family to live in luxury. The implicit threat is that if he refused, they would bring the matter to court, waste his time and money on court matters and legal fees, and probably still get the judge to order him to pay her such sums anyway.

The lawyer he engaged took a one thousand dollar deposit to look at his case, then told him to just take the blow and pay her the money. We looked at the matter in detail ourselves, and based on the circumstances we guessed that she was only just bluffing; that her lawyers were not certain they could win the case if the matter was brought to trial, and she was just hoping to intimidate him into immediate surrender because she had less to back up her threat then she pretended.

We were correct. He ignored the demands, and up till now the lawyers haven’t carried out their threats.

The point is not about how two non-lawyers could out-guess her lawyers, it’s about his lawyer telling him to roll over and play dead for his opponent. As I pointed out in the Wang Shu case in Lesson 03, whenever you capitulate to the type of people who use intimidation and bullying to get their way, you are entirely at their mercy as to whether they keep their promises. Bear in mind there are criminals who enjoy toying with their victims, and one thing such sick people like to do is to promise to let you off if you doing something for them that actually makes you even more vulnerable. Because of the fear and the bad situation they have already trapped you in, victims WANT to believe that offer. It’s not gonna turn out well, believe me…

Another side point about lawyers when it comes to civil disputes (not criminal cases) – they will say whatever their clients want them to say. If their clients were already known to be dishonest before, you may think you have an advantage, but you have to weigh the chance that your opponent has more money to spend on taking you to court than you do. And do you have enough money to battle it out with this person? Your opponent will often be counting on you being too intimidated by the brazenness  of the claims (lies) and the thought of your own legal expenses to call his or her bluff.

You have to weigh all these situations on a case-by-case basis.

1) Physical Health

a) Nutrition

i) Are you drinking enough water?

Drink lots of plain water during the day. A good place to start is with two cups of water first thing in the morning when you wake up, and then another six cups interspersed during the day for starters.

Signs of long term dehydration include:

• headaches
• being unable to focus or concentrate
• passing darker urine than usual
• tiredness or fatigue
• muscle weakness and cramps
• constipation
• dry, flaky skin
• altered kidney, heart, or digestive function

https://www.medicalnewstoday.com/articles/chronic-dehydration#symptoms

Water is the most basic nutrient. Make sure you take enough, before long term health problems set in.

ii) Are you eating enough fruits?

You can read up on the benefits of eating more fruits at

https://www.healthline.com/nutrition/is-fruit-good-or-bad-for-your-health#vitamins-and-minerals

But as a quick sum up, fruits give you fibre, antioxidants and other nutrients. Pineapple and papaya contain enzymes that help your body digest meat. I myself take some fruit every day, and 2 or 3 times a week I eat only fruits for lunch. I mix and match 2-3 types of fruits for that and eat enough to make me full. Work out for yourself what works best for your body and your lifestyle.

iii) Omega-3 & Protein

Omega-3 Deficiency

1. Skin irritation and dryness

2. Depression

3. Dry eyes

4. Joint pain and stiffness

5. Hair changes

https://www.healthline.com/nutrition/omega-3-deficiency#1.-Skin-irritation-and-dryness

Protein Deficiency

Common signs that your body is extremely low on protein include:

•             Brittle hair and nails, often the first sign of deficiency

•             Feeling weak or hungry, since protein supplies energy and satisfies the appetite

•             Getting sick often without protein to boost the immune system

•             Mood changes or trouble thinking due to fluctuating blood sugar and protein’s effect on the brain’s neurotransmitters (which regulate mood)

•             Muscle weakness, since amino acids are essential for building muscle mass

•             Stress fractures when bone tissue doesn’t have the protein it needs

https://www.uclahealth.org/news/are-you-getting-enough-protein-heres-what-happens-if-you-dont#:~:text=Signs%20of%20a%20protein%20deficiency,to%20boost%20the%20immune%20system

Ingestion of omega-3 fatty acids increases learning, memory, cognitive well-being, and blood flow in the brain.

https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC9641984/#:~:text=Ingestion%20of%20omega%2D3%20fatty,from%20an%20omega%2D3%20supplement.

The important part you need to note – if you are deficient in these two groups of nutrients, this directly affects your physical, emotional and mental condition. Some people (like me) neglect good nutrition while under pressure. You MIGHT escape the consequences for a short time, but the drawn out season and intense demands of police investigation and a court trial will not let you get away with this. Feed your body what you need to clear through this challenge.

b) Exercise

You need fitness (stamina) and strength

In lesson 04, when I spoke about waiting in the lockup and when undergoing interrogation, I brought up asking for medical attention should you need it. Especially for interrogation, you need to be at your most alert, and if you are physically unwell or weak, that works against you.

Regularly exercising helps you to draw on your reserves of energy and alertness when you most need it. But what type of exercise is useful? Some people say you should aim for 10000 steps a day, a gentle form of exercise for your long term health.

Err… I don’t think so.

In Lesson 04 I talked about the interrogation process, when you are being questioned by the police as they are seriously thinking of arresting you. You have to speak calmly and clearly, not too fast, even as your heart is pounding. And let me tell you, that is not the most intense it can get. The police are looking out for weaknesses and loopholes with what you say, yes, but they know that even if they don’t get the answers they want from you today they can always question you again tomorrow, next week, next month, whenever. They know they can take their time with this. Once this goes up to the courts, however, the both the judge AND the public prosecutor (or your opponent’s lawyers) are looking for your mistakes. Both are ready to call you out on them and both want to get all this over and done with. The cross examination will be long drawn, with extended pauses and silences. And when you are the centre of attention you can feel your heart racing relentlessly throughout.

Such physical demands on your body are not a stroll in the park. Do you think you can prepare your body for this just by walking in the park? You prepare for intense situations by training with at least some intensity. 

If you are new to all this, I recommend that you engage a personal trainer for at least 2 months and tell him that you need fitness and strength. He can plan out the process and guide you through it. Personally I believe you don’t need 30 mins a day for jogging, or an hour a day in the gym to be prepared. In the months before the false molest accusation took place, I was loaded with work and tired almost all the time. But I had 3-5 bodyweight exercises I did almost every day. 6-10 mins with intensity and I was done and ready to get on with the day. Believe me, that made a huge difference on the night of 19 Oct 2020 when I needed my alertness for the interview with the Serious Sexual Crimes Branch.

Heart beating away during questioning? I was already used to that sensation. Those short but intense daily workouts also kept me from becoming weak and fat.

c) Cut down on the bad stuff

Oftentimes, once I say this people already know how this applies in their lives. 

But I’ll just single out two things that I believe are important. Smoking and drinking.

I am less concerned about the long term effects of these on your health than about the fact they are how many people try to deal with stress. I am not saying you need to totally eliminate them out of your life at that point, but I urge you to cut down.

Sometimes people who have been accused and arrested for a crime they did not commit experience panic attacks after. If you did not settle the situation immediately (conclusively show with your first statement that accuser committed a 182 against you), you will likely be facing a continual low-grade stress with occasional bouts of what feels like a panic attack. If smoking and alcohol are your main reactions to stress, you might increase your smoking and drinking to the point they cause immediate damage to your health.

Also, they might affect your mental alertness and focus. Can you imagine facing police interrogation or cross examination in court while the nicotine cravings hit? Or if you are hungover from too much alcohol the night before?

In Lesson 04 I talked about using techniques like the Huberman physiological sigh to deal with intense anxiety (such as panic attacks) if you have been arrested  and are waiting in the lockup.. Get good at your prepared techniques, they are useful in your day-to-day life after that experience.  If you are not having a panic attack yet, but can tell you are heading that direction, I suggest you drink some water, do 20 push-ups and see if that makes you feel better.

Obviously, there are top-notch lawyers and high-ranking police officers who drink and smoke to cope with stress. Yes, it doesn’t affect their performance at work, so they can get away with it. But you must remember they are a lot more familiar with the courts and with the trial process than you are. If you do not have their experience with the courts, I’d urge you to play it safe and err on the side of caution instead. Drink water, exercise and go walk at the beach to manage your emotions instead. 

2) Work

You have to keep on working. You cannot let the shock and anxiety created by the false accusations to freeze you from working.

If the 182 was committed against you outside of work – for example, you had an affair with a married woman that you met at your sailing club or country club, and she falsely accused you of molesting her (or worse) when her husband found out about the affair, this is distressing, but it does not directly affect your work. Therefore you should compartmentalize your emotions over this and focus on work during work time. If you find it hard to focus, drink some water, do 20 push-ups and then get back to work.

If the 182 was committed against you at work, however, it is a tricky situation. My recommendation is that you do not resign from your job. If you resign, it is easy for inertia to set in and you spend your days aimless and lost without the structure and framework of your job. Put the decision in the hands of the HR department of your workplace.

In the case of Nursyafiqah Jasmi, the colleague she accused was asked to take a two-week leave from work to prevent interaction between him and Nursyafiqah. He was banned from returning to Choa Chu Kang Neighbourhood Police Centre and carrying arms. He was posted to a backend role at the Jurong Division Headquarters Support and Technical Branch instead.

Because he was working in the public sector, they had some leeway in how they could reassign the guy during the investigations. If you are working in the private sector, things get complicated. It is not illegal for employers to fire employees facing charges even before they are convicted. That opens up a can of worms if it goes that way. So I say stay unless you are forced to go.

If your accuser is your employer, however, then things are different. Leave. Immediately. If she still tries to retain you of course that tells the police that she knows you are innocent. Simply put, the only thing more dangerous than associating with a 182 woman in any way is associating with her after she knows you see through her. I highly recommend getting your lawyers involved with the resignation process, if you can afford it.

Being able to afford lawyers gives you more options, whatever the circumstances. That is why you must keep on working if your income depends on it. In the case of Dr Yeo Sow Nam his legal fees went up to $600,000. I am not saying that you need that kind of sum in order to have a chance in court, but you need to know how expensive things can get. Don’t let the legal fees from going to trial become a bomb that explodes in your face while you are struggling to make ends meet. Keep working.

When it comes to managing the damage and consequences of being falsely accused of molest, one of the best examples we can find in Singapore is from Dr Yeo Sow Nam.

While in the midst of preparing legal representations and meeting his lawyers every few weeks, he pressed on with making key contributions to the field. In 2019, he started the Chapter of Pain Medicine Physicians at the Academy of Medicine and co-chaired a committee which assisted the Ministry of Health in publishing the national guidelines on opioid use in 2020. 

https://saltandlight.sg/work/it-was-beyond-bodily-pain-but-in-every-pain-there-is-gain-top-pain-specialist-who-was-acquitted-of-molestation-charges/

Notice how Dr Yeo continued to keep himself busy with his career, his field of study AND serve in a committee within his field. You may not be as preeminent in your career as he is, but there are always things you can do, improvements you can make and new ground you can break. Don’t let a 182 woman stall you in your career.

Sometimes your emotions start to arise when you need to focus on work and get tasks done. Some people can compartmentalize, they can carry on and accomplish their daily goals  in spite of the anger and fear raging within them. If you are not one of them, however, here’s a suggestion: every time your fear and anger rise up and hinder you from concentrating on your work, drink some water, do 20 push-ups and then get back to your job.

3) Your Family

It is easy to get caught up with the trauma and shock. Your family, however, still needs you. Don’t let your anger over the false accusation and the oppression of the investigations blind you to the needs still before you.

This is the nightmare scenario:

Your wife and kids see you leaving for work one day normally. Then you are missing, un-contactable for hours past the time they usually expect you home. Then when you finally come home, they see you haunted, silent and withdrawn.

Your wife tells your kids “Daddy is just tired, let him rest.” But the next day and the day after that they see you sitting sullenly at home. Or you go out and they see you staggering back late at night reeking of cheap beer. 

Maybe you used to engage with them, chatting with your wife about her day and playing with your kids. Now the only time you speak to them is to curse, swear and upbraid them over niggling trivialities. Your kids are distressed. What happened to Daddy, their loving, strong, dependable pillar of support? If your kids are too young to understand what is happening, there is a chance they end up blaming themselves for whatever is happening in the family. That will permanently scar them in their souls. Your wife will try to be there for them, to make sure they do not feel neglected by your emotional absence, but she herself needs to know that you will not be down forever, that you will eventually pick yourself up and take up your role as husband and parent again.

And every day that your depression and silence continues, you are bleeding her of her strength and hope.

As a ideal for how to engage your family even during such adverse situations, we look at Dr Yeo Sow Nam again.

During the four long years, he and his wife would go for long walks, almost daily, at the Botanic Gardens, meditating on Psalm 23 and 91 that assured them of God’s comfort and protection. They would also praise God with the verses in Psalm 25 and 103, and use them whenever they needed guidance in walking the right path. Every night, he also tuned in to audio sermons before he slept. 

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“It was not easy because we also had to talk to our children about learning to ignore the harsh comments from social media or people around them. It was a dark time,” he added. 

Notice how he keep the communications with his wife open. They also headed off any problems they anticipated their children having. The very fact that he and his wife were proactive in this makes a huge difference in how well their children could handle the adversities.

I cannot emphasize enough how important it is to engage with your children and invest into their lives during this season. Let’s face it, a 182 woman can take your career out of your hands. She can use the Singapore Police Force and the Courts to make your life miserable. She can ruin your reputation and turn society at large against you. You can feel that you’ve lost control over much of your life.

But one area you still have some control over: your relationship with your children. That is pretty much a blank slate. Your kids WANT to have the best relationship with you possible, and that means you have a lot of power over this area of your life. As long as you have the opportunity, you should father your children to the best of your ability.

Jewish proverb: Be wise, my son, and bring joy to my heart; then I can answer anyone who treats me with contempt.

When the police view you with suspicion and your professional and personal reputation is under attack, all you need is one child walking in wisdom for his or her life to bring dignity, comfort and strength to your heart.

On the other hand, I am certain 182 women and those who trend toward dishonesty will NEVER be good parents. Odds are such people will gaslight their own children and abuse them emotionally in a wide range of ways. I suspect the best way such people can keep themselves from screwing up their children’s lives is just not have any. 182 women: either you grow up, face up to your crimes and take responsibility for your misdeeds, or realize you are not fit to breed and don’t have children in the first place. Because if you do, I honestly pity your children.

We backtrack and look at the triggers for false molest accusations. Fundamentally, those who trend toward dishonesty use deceit in various forms (lies, silence, python-talk) as a coping mechanism to deal with situations they don’t like. Such coping mechanisms are quite ingrained into them by adulthood. By the time they reach their 40s, say 44 years old or so, only a massive shock has a chance of getting them to change their ways. A shock such as being caught, exposed & getting jailed for the 182.

But this means that at this critical juncture, they have to overcome their own coping mechanism of the past 2, 3, 4 decades & choose honesty & responsibility. The odds of that happening are extremely low. Much more likely they will revert back to form, play the victim & DARVO away frantically.

If they have enough money for lawyers, they will not only use their lawyers to defend against the official charges (which may not occur at all if Clementi Division is involved) but also to silence whistle blowers who warn the public of the danger they pose to society.

That is why i write off such people. In lesson 5 i say 182 women are worth less than a dog with ticks. By the time they are exposed the deep dishonesty is an integral part of the character. How good a parent can they be?

Fathers, if you never gave much conscious thought to how you want to father your children, you can start by reading the following article on parenting.

https://parentotheca.com/2022/11/03/four-lessons-from-jordan-peterson-that-will-help-you-become-a-better-parent/

Important: you should never let the fear and frustrations of this season lead to any outbursts towards your family. Never. You should, however, use your responsibility to your family to spur yourself on to manage your emotions and set an example to your children on how to handle difficult times and trying seasons. Here’s a suggestion: every time you sense the fear and anger rise up and tempt you towards an uncontrolled outburst, drink some water, do 20 push-ups and then get back to your family.

4) Religious Faith

I’d be remiss if I did not point out how much religious faith helped sustain Dr Yeo and his wife during the trial (literally). Religious faith reminds us that, fundamentally, people haven’t really changed, thus the struggles, temptations and troubles we all face in life are what others have faced before and survived. One of the most crippling mindsets during seasons of adversity is the sense of loneliness, that only you are going through all this crap while everyone else is fine. Religious faith is one way to counter this mindset.

Another thing religious faith does is to give us a framework for self-reflection. In Lesson 03 I spoke about awareness and self-reflection, but I was looking more at the actions of other people then. We also need to practice self-reflection to see what we are doing wrong, or what aspects of our lives make us more vulnerable to things going wrong. And when things go that far wrong (you are the target of a 182) there will always be some part you yourself played in how crappy things went.

Some people take this too far and end up victim-blaming. Let me give you a simple rule of thumb to help you discern between taking responsibility and victim-blaming. Victim-blaming tries to get the victim to not take official action against the culprit. The core idea is “You had a part to play in this also, therefore you should not report that criminal to the police”. Anyone who tries to feed you that kind of idea is seeking to cover up for criminal behaviour and activity. Either they themselves have a direct stake in the matter (a man trying to get his wife off the hook for falsely accusing another man of molest) or they themselves were too cowardly to take action when they were abused or victimized, therefore you yourself taking action is a rebuke to them.

How much regard should you give such people? I think you know my answer to that question.

My point here is not to sell you a religious faith, or to suggest atheists take up a religion. But if you are already a religious person, don’t neglect this area of your life. If you were already attending church before, for example, don’t drop out of church now. That would be unwise. Give your religious community a chance to practice their religion and be a help to you in your season of crises.

5) Your Community

A religious faith COULD also bring about a sense of community. But since it does not automatically happen, we need to look at it separately.

What is a real, functional community? It is a group of people who can say to you stuff like “Bro, the way you are treating your wife is not good” and you are willing to listen. It is made up of people to whom you can say the same kind of thing and they are willing to listen to you. That community is built upon people who connect with each other and invest in each other. They know you and you know them. After I was falsely accused of molest, it was my community that linked me up with people who taught me all the stuff I didn’t know.

When Dr Yeo Sow Nam was falsely accused of molest, there were still people who stood by him, such as his patients and his loved ones. If your reputation matters to you, such people who stand by you are a huge comfort during this season. Generally, I don’t bother about my own personal reputation. My reputation isn’t so odious that strangers threaten me or attack me at random, and I am respected enough to still make a living with what I do. My accuser has no clout in the Singapore nightclub scene, so she cannot keep me from getting work there. Likewise with the other communities that matter to me.

So I don’t really care about my reputation among the general public or people who do not know me. First, I am a loner; that is how I could get the skills that I am proud of. Second, I’m not running for political office, neither am I trying to gain clout as a business leader or social media influencer of some sort. But I DO care about my reputation with people I have connected with. In other words, my community matters to me. And I show that through my time and attention to people from my community. I invest effort into nurturing and mentoring newer people in my community, for example.

It used to be that community was found in religious faith, but that is not a sure thing in this day and age. If, like Dr Yeo, you attend New Creation Church for example, odds are you have no community there. The church is too large and many of the members do not connect with each other deeply outside the church service. And the same applies if you regularly go to Chinese temples. Do you know where community is found in there? It is in the temples that regularly organize events, such as charity fund raising. It is in volunteering to serve in such temple committees that you plug yourself into community in that environment. So if you regularly go to temples, this is something you should give some serious thought to. 

6) Mentally

To prepare yourself mentally for your case, there are three things you ought to do.

a) You should study – at the very least you should know the Penal Code on Section 354 (outrage of modesty) and 182 (providing false information to a public servant). Then look into past cases of convictions for both of them. For example, on 16 Feb 2021, an officer from Clementi Division claimed that there would be no investigation into the 182 committed against me because I was not arrested for it. Do you know in which case the police took action against someone making a false accusation of sex crimes even though the accused was not arrested?

After that you should study any aspect of the case that captures your attention. For me, I already had a good enough understanding of criminal behaviour, but I wanted to see how it came out in the Singapore context and in cases of 182. Clementi Division deliberately lying to cover up for my accuser sparked my interest in studying the Singapore Police Force and past cases of police dishonesty.

When I study, I study seriously. When I wanted to know about toxic people, psychopathy and criminal behaviour, I went to the library and dug through textbooks on these topics. And ever since I have come across people who think they know as much as I do because they follow social media accounts on such topics. *Facepalm

Let me set the record straight. Textbooks give the bibliographies and the references, the sources for their claims. Basically, they tell you where they get their conclusions from and give you the chance to look into them and see if they came to the correct conclusions and interpretations. The social media accounts I have looked at do NOT give their references, sources or citations. In other words, you have to take their word for it that their conclusions on these matters are correct. When the stakes are high (for example, they claim to help you protect your children from predators) their best guess isn’t good enough when there is a lot of established information available.

Study properly.

b) Journal

Write out the details of your case, your memories of what happened before, the questions you have, the emotions you experience, the details you remember and the conclusions you come to. Write out the details of interesting cases that you have read, the questions you have and the conclusions you arrive at.

In your day to day life, journaling helps you practice self-reflection. That is of course a great benefit in and of itself. But when you face this season of crises and you need your mind to be sharper, physically writing out your journal forces your mind to be clear and exact with your choice of words. Over time you start to do so instinctively.

c) Practice Speaking If you are not experienced in public speaking, get out your phone audio recording app and record yourself reading out Section 354 and 182 of the Singapore Penal Code. Read out the news articles on various 354 and 182 cases. Read out your journal entries. Listen to how you sound and fix unclear words, lazy pronunciation and any problems with your phrasing. You don’t have to get to a Toastmasters level (though I’d recommend joining Toastmasters if you are very new to all this) but you need to be sure you won’t stumble over your words when you are being cross-examined in court. The only way to prepare is through practice, practice, practice.

On 19 Oct 2020, when I was falsely accused of molest, I was able to handle police questioning well enough to avoid arrest. The three points I gave here are a huge part of what helped.

7) Emotionally

What emotions often arise:

a) sense of being lost and directionless – review this lesson again and again, as often as you need to, to remind yourself of what you need to do next

b) loneliness – that is why you need to be present, be there with your family and for your family, as well as be part of a community. Invest in the lives of other people and let them invest in your life too.

c) fear, stress, a sense of powerlessness – you begin to manage these emotions when you study and understand better the situation you face. My entire series of lessons helps you get started in this area. Of course, there will be times when the emotions still surge and you find yourself feeling unable to regain control. Here’s a suggestion: every time these emotions threaten to overwhelm you or paralyze you, drink some water, do 20 push-ups and then get back to your life.

d) anger and outrage over being the target of a vicious crime – dealing with anger is simple. Anger exists as an emotional spur to take action, to seek justice. If you refuse to report the 182 woman who tried to ruin your life, there is no reason for your anger to go away. And after some time, it’s likely that your anger will not be directed only at the 182 woman but also at yourself, for not having the courage to stand up for yourself and strive for justice. So compile the evidence, make the report, do what you need to in order for the case against the 182 woman to have the best chance of success. If necessary, refer to Lesson 05.

What if you are actively pursuing all the avenues to seek justice, and in the process the anger rises up to the point you are unable to focus on what you need to do next? Or you have done everything you could and can only just wait for the next breakthrough? Here’s a suggestion: every time the anger threatens to choke you up, drink some water, do 20 push-ups and then get back to your life.

Sunlight and Nature

Signs you may need more sunlight

• Irregular Sleep-Wake Cycles
• Low Energy and Productivity
• Depression and Other Mental Illness
• Weaker Bones
• Weakened Immune System
• Weight Gain
• High Blood Pressure

Link – https://carex.com/blogs/resources/light-deprivation-what-happens-if-you-don-t-get-enough-sunlight

Get out in nature

Be deliberate to go to the beach, walk through Bedok Reservoir, stroll through Botanical Gardens. Singapore is small, you are a short distance away from allowing a boost of nature to drastically make your day or week better.

For more benefits on getting out in nature, check out https://www.apa.org/monitor/2020/04/nurtured-nature

Conclusion

The whole entire process of being accused, investigated and then facing trial is an ordeal. It can hit people hard.

While the law declares that one is innocent until found guilty, accused persons often find the presumption of guilt hanging like a Sword of Damocles over their heads even before they are convicted.

Once court proceedings start, they risk being fired from their jobs or having to suffer the embarrassment of having their cases being reported in the media, said lawyers and human resource experts.

In fact, some end up suffering “so much stress and anxiety that they develop psychiatric issues”, requiring counselling and medication, said Mr Kalidass Murugaiyan and Mr Chua Hock Lu from Kalidass Law Corporation in an email response. They added: “The stress suffered can be extraordinary… (one of Mr Kalidass’ clients) passed away shortly after court proceedings began.”

https://www.channelnewsasia.com/singapore/the-big-read-accused-persons-long-court-proceedings-224946

All this is part and parcel of what a 182 woman can inflict upon you. And not everyone has money to afford counselling during the process. Not everyone has a community, or are connected with their religious leaders well enough for their religious leaders to be able to help them. And not all religious leaders are aware of the various aspects of what you go through if falsely accused of molest or other sex crimes.

This lesson is to give those of us who do not have the understanding or resources some hope, some options and some direction to head toward. My entire lesson series is also to help laypeople, leaders of a religious community for example, get a sense of what you are facing and how they can best support you.

Take-aways

What I want you to realize from this lesson – a person should not wait until he is falsely accused of sex crimes to begin using the advice here to improve his life. You don’t need to be facing trial to see how the principles I showcased here can make your life better.

I also want you to realize that prevention still gives you the best odds. Lesson 02 is not a pleasant lesson, but in my opinion it is the most crucial lesson in this lesson series. Please go back to that lesson, and maybe even use that lesson as a spur to your further study on dishonest people. If you can quickly identify 182 women and DARVO-ian people early and avoid them, you just make things so much simpler for yourself.

And with this my most important thoughts, suggestions and advice on the whole subject of preventing and responding to false accusations of sex crimes are now out in the public.  As you can see by now, I have held nothing back. I have not tried to upsell special secrets you need in order to do XYZ, available now at a special discount rate of whatever. Maybe in the future I may explore sub-topics or further questions with experts I collaborate with, but for now this is it.

Thank you for joining me in these lessons.

If you have found them helpful, please share with friends, family, community leaders and such. If you have expertise in related fields and you’d like to share it, email me (junjie.jayren@gmail.com) and we see what we can work out. If there is more you’d like to know about, let me know and I see if I can help?

See you!

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Lying About Molest – Lesson 05

If the Police Choose To Be Dishonest

This is a difficult lesson to do, because I have had a number of interactions with the Singapore Police Force over the course of my life, and in every other instance they were proper in their conduct.

How can you tell? When the police are called into any dispute, they know that they don’t know anything about the situation. Sometimes the truth is obvious, and they can act accordingly. But when it is not, and at that moment all they have is the word of one person vs another, the fairest thing they can do is to be neutral.

If you are used to getting your way in life, charming or intimidating people into doing what you want, this neutrality can look daunting or even hostile. It isn’t. Until the police officers speaking to you repeat their orders in stronger language and prepare for physical violence, they are still neutral. And that is what is required of them.

Just so there is no doubt, on 19 Oct 2020 the police officers who answered the initial call for assistance and the officers from the Serious Sexual Crimes Branch who interviewed me later that night were neutral, and I salute them for it. 

žUnique to this lesson

Not only will I showcase a high-ranking SPF officer trying to mislead me on the details of my case, I will also explain a common technique used by bureaucrats to mislead and gaslight people.

žYou will also get insight into the investigation methods and standards of the Clementi Division General Investigation Squad.

Links on the Kalaivani Kalimuthu case

https://www.channelnewsasia.com/singapore/policewoman-who-forged-alleged-molestation-victims-statement-gets-jail-905121

https://www.straitstimes.com/singapore/courts-crime/policewoman-jailed-five-months-for-forging-statement-of-alleged-molestation

https://sg.news.yahoo.com/former-police-officer-jailed-5-months-forging-victims-statement-022617359.html

A) Close the Case

“She called the woman but could not arrange an interview with her. As she wanted to complete the investigation quickly, she decided to forge the further statement, Deputy Public Prosecutor Stephanie Chew told the court.”

When you interact with any member of the Singapore Police Force who does investigations, you need to always bear in mind that the officer is under pressure to close the case so that he or she can move on to the next one.

Some cases are obviously straightforward and can be closed easily. Some are complex and require meticulous work over the long term. Those are also obvious to the investigating officer and his/her supervisors. For those they just grit their teeth and get on with them.

The investigation officer’s character is tested, however, when he or she gets an easy way out: just skip some work and simply close the case. At that point of time, the officer is torn between doing a proper and complete job on the case (which may not always be appreciated by the supervisor) or signing off on a case, getting the supervisor’s sign-off also, and from that point on the case is no longer that officer’s immediate problem.

It is this temptation that drives a lot of bad behaviour from police officers.

https://www.vice.com/en/article/g5qxnb/sexual-abuse-investigation-national-university-singapore-nus

After local media outlets reported on the case, Ava found herself the subject of a “data breach investigation.” She was interrogated by a female investigator at the school about “releasing private information” to the media, a claim that she denied.

“I was in shock when I was told that there would be an investigation into me,” Ava said. “I freaked out. I started worrying. I don’t know what I had done wrong.”

Ava was grilled by the female investigator, Kalaivani Kalimuthu, a former police officer who’d earlier been convicted and jailed for forging statements to suggest that an alleged victim of molestation did not mind being touched.

According to Ava, she was verbally threatened and pressured by the officer and was also told “there was a chance” she would be charged with doxxing and harassment. “Kalaivani told me that she ‘already knew everything’ and said that I should come clean,” Ava said. “She also told me that my perpetrator had been going through a lot after the case came to light in the media.”

To me it was obvious that all Kalaivani wanted was to be able to report to her superiors that the source of the data breach had been identified. Whether her superiors were ex-SPF or not, the odds were that they were not too interested in whatever means Kalaivani used to get answers; only that she got them the answers they wanted. If she herself seemed pretty certain of the accuracy of the answers, who were they to further question her methods?

My Case – 16 Feb 2021

On 16 Feb 2021, I contacted the I/O assigned to the molest accusation made against me on 19 Oct 2020. I offered my full cooperation to assist the investigations upon which officer informed me that there was no further investigation into that accusation, and that the case was over. Then I asked  about the blatantly false accusations of molest that nearly led to my arrest that night, an obvious offence under Section 182 of the Penal Code. That I/O replied with “But you weren’t,” and for her that settled the matter and ended the discussion.

Question – was it merely because of her own laziness and irresponsibility? Or was it common practice of the Clementi Division General Investigation Squad to ignore most of the false molest accusations made instead of taking action against dishonest women for their crimes?

My Case – 22 Apr 2021

Instead of being the compliant victim this investigation officer wanted me to be, I made my own police report describing what happened that night (D20210422/7003). On that very day itself, I received a phone call from an officer identifying herself as I/O Teo. This officer claimed that no false accusation took place.  According to I/O Teo, the police present that evening probed my accuser’s story to make sure that she truly understood what she was alleging when she accused me of molest.  My accuser took back her accusations at the end of that process; she did not mean ‘molest’ the way the police present took it to mean. Hence, there was no false accusation, merely a misunderstanding. Therefore there would be no investigation into this matter.

That was NOT what happened that night.

On 19 Oct 2020, I called for police assistance over a case of wrongful confinement (Section 340)

Sometime after being interviewed by the responding police, I was first informed that I was accused of carrying a baton and, after being searched for weapons, of outrage of modesty. Officers from the Serious Sexual Crimes Branch confirmed the accusation of outrage of modesty after interviewing my accuser. They expressed the intent to arrest me but changed their minds after taking my statement.

Question – did I/O Teo attempt to mislead me just to help out the previous I/O? Or because ignoring dishonest women who make false accusations of molest and other sex crimes is a common practice in the Clementi Div General Investigation Squad? Obviously they want to close the case without having to do proper work and take proper action.

B) The Perfect Crime

If you want a quick glimpse into the loopholes and systemic weaknesses of the Singapore Police Force, look at the crimes members of the police commit. As long as those crimes were not committed on the spur of the moment (maybe under the influence of drugs or alcohol) you can be sure that police officer was quite certain he or she would not be caught. And we get deep insight into the SPF by asking why those officers were so sure.

Again, from the Channel News Asia account:

She did so on her police-issued laptop in November 2016, without the woman present, adding details to the statement that the woman had never provided. These include a claim that the woman had touched her alleged molester during the incident, and that she did not mind her attacker touching her.

Kalaivani signed the statement with the woman’s name by tracing her signature from the previous statement, and sent the investigation papers to her officer-in-charge, referring to the forged statement and recommending that no further action be taken regarding the woman’s police report.

Essentially, Kalaivani made out the victim to have incriminated herself in an offence under Section 182 of the Penal Code. Based on that fraudulent statement, Kalaivani recommended that no further action be taken.

The entire deception she wove began to untangle when the police sent the investigation papers to the Attorney-General’s Chambers (AGC), recommending that a warning be given to the woman for giving false information to the police. AGC directed the police to take a further statement from the woman when the police recommended charging her for providing false information. The matter was reassigned to another investigation officer, who interviewed the woman in person in June 2017. He showed her the forged statement, and the woman said she did not remember going to the police station to give such a statement.

Once someone higher up in the hierarchy recommended that a warning be given to the woman for the supposed 182 and the AGC directed that the police take a further statement from the woman herself, this whole matter began to come to light. The woman easily proved that she was not the one who made that statement, and with that the truth emerged.

Based on Kalaivani’s behaviour, did she expect this at all? Certainly not. Why? Was it because her years of experience in the Singapore Police Force showed her that the police almost never take action at all over 182 offences involving false accusations of sex crimes?

It wasn’t as if Kalaivani had no other options when crafting that fraudulent statement. She could have easily made the victim out to say that the man she accused had already apologized to her, and that his wife and his religious leaders had already reached out to her to ask her to forgive that man, and thus she did not wish to pursue the matter further.

And with that the forgery would have flown under the radar of the police and the AGC completely.

Yet Kalaivani chose to go the go-big-or-go-home route. You can blame some of that upon her personally, yes, but to me it’s obvious she would not have tried it if she was not certain the SPF hierarchy would have totally ignored a 182 case of false accusations.

Her actions make sense only if she was certain the SPF would not take any action, not even a warning, against a woman who made a false accusation of sex crimes. Was this something explicitly taught her by her colleagues and superiors? Or something she figured out  over her years of experience in the SPF?

Nursyafiqah Jasmi

•             Nursyafiqah Jasmi, a police staff sergeant, had an extramarital affair with another police officer

•             The affair lasted for nearly three years and briefly stopped when her husband found out

•             It resumed for several more months later

•             Growing upset when her lover still did not want to leave his wife for her, she falsely alleged that he had harassed and molested her

•             She only came clean when evidence of their affair was found in her mobile phone

https://www.todayonline.com/singapore/married-police-officer-falsely-accuses-colleague-lover-molest-1944151

She falsely maintained that she was not in a relationship with him. When the head of investigations and a police officer attached to the special victim unit reminded her of the consequences of making a false report, Nursyafiqah maintained that Mr Ezriyan had molested her.

…

The police seized her mobile phone for investigations, which eventually revealed numerous text messages showing that they were having an affair.

Did she really believe that the man she accused would have NO records of his own of their affair? In lesson 02 I talked about the lies that make no sense; lies that are too easily disproven. This is exactly the case here. Furthermore, the very evidence that would totally discredit her and show her guilty of making a false accusation of molest, she kept in her phone. It looks as if she totally did not expect the police to look into her phone as part of investigating her accusation.

Her actions make sense only if she was certain the SPF would not take any action, not even a warning, against a woman who made a false accusation of sex crimes. Was this something explicitly taught her by her colleagues and superiors? Or something she figured out  over her years of experience in the SPF?

C) Delays, delays, delays

27 March 2016 – the molest report was made

25 November 2016 – The forged statement was sent to the officer in charge

Dec 2016 – investigation papers forwarded to the AGC

Jan 2017 – AGC directed the police to take a further statement from the woman to investigate the details and extent of false information provided

June 2017 – the forged statement was uncovered

We have nothing to indicate that Kalaivani Kalimuthu deliberately delayed the process. But even then, look at how long-drawn the proceedings were. It was around 15 months after the woman made the report that she was actually interviewed by an investigation officer. 

The delays could have led to:

1) the victim giving up hope on obtaining justice

2) outrage of modesty involves the use of criminal force, so the victim could have been victimized again and again while waiting for the Singapore Police Force to take action

3) the victim forgetting crucial details of her case and therefore her attacker gets off scot-free entirely when it goes to trial

How about in my case, when I could already infer from I/O Teo’s misinformation that the SPF did not intend to investigate my case and would probably delay it until my sons could collect their CPF money upon retirement?

Know Your Enemy

The stereotypical bureaucrat is not afraid of things going wrong; he/she is more worried about being blamed for it. As long as the bureaucrat can somehow show that things going wrong was not his/her fault or in the area of his/her responsibility, the bureaucrat sleeps soundly at night and makes it through the workday in placid, complacent ease.

The flip side? Bureaucrats HATE having attention being drawn to them, especially attention from OUTSIDE their immediate bureaucracy.

1) Email the I/O – Establish the Paper Trail

After the phone call from I/O Teo on 22 Apr 2021, I received an automated email from SPF informing me of the I/O officially assigned to my case.  I emailed him on 26 Apr 2021, putting into writing what I/O Teo said and asking this I/O to confirm her claim in writing.

Was I expecting a reply? Of course not. But I sent this email to begin establishing a paper trail, a record of correspondence so that he and the rest of the team cannot claim they forgot about my case.

Tip: A lawyer friend of mine told me that his law firm’s practice when communicating with the SPF over criminal cases was to seek updates via email once a month. If you look at the time frame in the Kalaivani case, you can tell that if the victim proactively sought to contact Kalaivani once a month to advance the investigations of her case, this entire fiasco would not have happened. Once a month is about just nice, not too frequent to be a nuisance to sincere police officers, but frequent enough to remind the irresponsible ones that people are watching them slack on tax payer money.

Use email to establish a paper trail, but make sure you have your phone call recording app downloaded and activated in case they call you.

2) Member of Parliament wrote to the SPF – Get Outsiders Involved

I sought out the Member of Parliament representing my constituency and asked for her help. To me, she had no moral or legal obligation to help me, especially over a case which she is unfamiliar with. But she generously chose to help. After I informed her that the Clementi Division refused to even investigate the 182, she wrote in to the SPF to ask that they investigate.

She wrote in on or around 5th May 2021. And as a result of that, I received a call from a high ranking officer from Clementi Div on 24th May 2021. During that call he informed me that they would investigate my case.

Important!

Whenever you seek help from your Member of Parliament, or a lawyer offers you an hour of his/her time to look over your case free of charge, you make sure everything they need to know is prepared and ready for them. Whatever documents they need should be printed out already or photocopied for them. For God’s sake don’t ever make anyone (MP, lawyer, their assistants) squint to look at crappy screen shots from your phone or take out their phones to take pictures of any documents you show them. Organize everything neatly, make sure everything is labeled and dated clearly, and printed out to hand over to them for their reference.

These people do not owe you their help. Therefore, if they are willing to help you, you should make sure they have everything need to help you, with ideally zero inconvenience to them.

3) the First Information Report

21 June 2021 – I applied online for the First Information Report

On 19 Oct 2020, as I called the police for assistance over the wrongful confinement, my accuser too called the police. I suspect that my accuser had actually prepared the police to hear a false accusation of sex crimes regarding me, kind of as her back-up plan should the Primary School story writing she gave them first that night prove insufficient to get her whatever she had in mind. The only way I could be sure, however, was to look at the First Information Report.  

23 June 2021 – I emailed the I/O again, just so he could not say he forgot about my case. I reminded him that I was promised a preliminary report within 7 days should the police investigate my case, and that more than 7 days have elapsed, whether you count it from 22 Apr or from 24 May.

08 Jul 2021 – I used the SPF e-feedback system to ask about the First Information Report. Did I expect to get it? No. By that point of time I suspected the Clementi Div investigation officers wanted me to think the 182 did not happen, and would therefore put up all kinds of resistance to letting me see the First Information Report. That of course by itself already gave me a very good idea of what was in it.

Only upon that did an Inspector from that Division call me on 9 July 2021 to make an appointment with me to take the first statement after my initial report made on 22 Apr 2021. The statement was taken from me by 16 July 2021, nearly 3 months after I made my report.

Judge for yourself if that long delay between the filing of my report and taking the first statement from me is an acceptable time frame for SPF investigative action. It also tells me that between the phone call on 24 May and finally taking a statement from me on 16th July, the investigation officers and the Inspector had done nothing practical and tangible to advance the investigations into my case.

Also, since that investigation officer had already disregarded two emails I sent, (26 Apr and 23 Jun), the second directly asking for updates and offering my cooperation in the investigations, it was blindingly obvious that If I did not bring up my application for the FIR via the e-services feedback, the Clementi Div General Investigation Squad would have continued to ignore my case and delay taking the first statement. God knows how long much longer would they have dragged the investigation, maybe long enough for evidence to be lost and the officers present on 19 Oct 2020 to have retired from the SPF?

4) 16 July 2023 – the First Statement

During the interview to take my first statement, the Inspector conducting the interview steered clear of any questions regarding the events of 19 Oct 2020 and asked generic questions about how I related with my accuser. At the end of the interview, he made the claim that there was no accusation of molest at all. When I pointed out that the officers from the Serious Sexual Crimes Branch were present and informed me of the molest accusation, he pretty much got up and left the room.

His claim was obviously false, obviously a deliberate attempt to deceive and mislead me. Of course this ought to be reported to the police (and broadcast to the public, so they know they have to watch out for such behaviour from SPF officers), but at that point he could just deny that he made that claim. So I sent an email over to the Investigation Officer who was in charge of my case.

5) Email to I/O – 12 Aug 2021, 1413 hrs – Strengthen the Paper Trail

I refer to the phone conversation with an I/O by the surname of Teo on 22nd April 2021 and the face-to-face interview with Inspector _____ on 16th July 2021.

 A) With regard to my report (D20210422/7003) on the false accusation of molest made against me in D20201019/0128;

i) I/O Teo (through a phone call on 22 Apr 2021) claimed that police decided not to investigate the false accusations made by (my accuser)  against me, because she was said to have taken back her words when your officers present on 19 Oct 2020 “clarified the terms” with her.

ii) Inspector _____, during the interview on 16th July 2021, claimed that (my accuser) never even mentioned the word ‘molest’ at all, nor did the idea of outrage of modesty come up during her statements to the police on 19 Oct 2020.

Please confirm IN WRITING that the two above statements by your Singapore Police Force officers are as presented; or if there should be a correction or alternative understanding in the representation of their replies.

Should I not  receive any such confirmation in writing within 2 weeks herein I shall take it that the replies represented by I/O Teo and Inspector ____ are deemed accurate and can be forwarded as is to my appointed lawyer.

B) Please also confirm IN WRITING that you are still the I/O appointed to this case (D20210422/7003), despite me not receiving any replies or acknowledgment to my questions or emails to you. Should you no longer be the I/O in charge of my case  please direct me IN WRITING to the new I/O in charge for future communications.

CC: (My MP) – as per our phone conversation on my case. My police report was made on 22nd April 2021, and the first statement the Police took from me after that report was on 16 July 2021, as reflected above.

Email reply 13 Aug 2021, 1007 hours

Dear Sir,

              Good morning to you.

2            I have forwarded your email to INSP _________. He will be dealing with your queries.

3            For your kind information pls. Thank you.

On one hand, you can see that he happily shoved off the responsibility for this case to his superior rather than give straight answers. This told me that the facts of the case are NOT what either this I/O Teo or his superior has claimed. It cannot be, they are both contradictory. When you investigate criminal activity and you see the criminals involved contradicting each other, you know you need to look further. How much more when you see flat-out contradictions from police officers who ought to be fully aware of the details of the 182 committed against me?

A Jewish proverb says whoever is a partner with a thief hates his own life; He swears to tell the truth, but reveals nothing.

That really applies this officer. He had no choice but to shift the attention and responsibility away from himself. Was he going to do the right thing, tell me the truth and thus confirm that his superior lied to me? Or was he going to endorse the lie? But even if he was dishonest enough to lie for the Investigation Squad in this matter, which lie was he going to support?

Of course the inspector did not reply to my email pointing out the contradictory lies from his department. But this email from the Investigation Officer confirmed the timeline. I know for certain that by 13 Aug 2021 his superior knows that I am on to him, and that I was not going to drop the matter so easily. And as long as he gave no reply, I could easily show he was trying to not just mishandle but actively sabotage the case.  His refusal to answer allowed me to write to SPF HQ (service quality, internal affairs, public affairs and such) about the entire case.

All my actions caused the General Investigation Squad to tip their hand, to reveal the truth of how far the rot had spread. When I began my investigations into this, I was unsure if the problem was confined to just the irresponsible investigation officer I spoke to on 16 Feb 2021 trying to whitewash the case and close it, or it had contaminated others within that same investigation squad, right up to the leadership.

D) Lies, Python-Talk and How They Conduct Investigations

This part of the lesson has audio clips from the 02 Nov 2021 phone call. 

Audio clips are taken from

i) 5:01 – 8:40

ii)2:58 – 4:30

iii)13:00 – 13:46

1) http://sndup.net/rhfh

1. “I did not say the molest word came out what. I was just referring to what you have alleged. And your allegation.” – he did not want to admit that the molest accusation happened.
2. “If she alleged molest then there would be a different form of action taken against you, right?” – This is python-talk.
3. “There was no allegation of molest what.”
4. “They say they were not called  up? No, I don’t get you. On that day when you called, when she called for the police…”
5. “Who told you that she accused you of molest?” – All this information was already in my report
6. “She could have termed it in a different way. Whatever she wants to allege, up to her. She can allege whatever she wants to allege. But the point I want to make to you is, our investigation never conclude that there was a case of molestation here.”

“She can allege whatever she wants to allege.” And he will take no action against her. With this, you can see clearly that for this officer, 182 is not a crime. Given his high rank in the Clementi Div General Investigation Squad, you can guess that 182 offences involving false accusations of sex crimes under his preview will thus be ignored and dismissed.

In Singapore, according to the Ministry of Home Affairs, of the 250 reported cases of serious sexual crimes (rape and sexual assault by penetration) a year from 2014 to 2018, police charged or warned the complainants for making false reports in only 10 cases – comparable to the rate in the UK.

We harp on false sexual assault accusations despite evidence to the contrary

In the above paragraph from an article by AWARE, Ms Shailey Hingorani presented the low rates of SPF action on false accusations of sex crimes as proof that false accusations seldom occur. I have shown you here that for Clementi Division at least we can be certain it is because high ranking officers in the General Investigation Squad consider it not a crime at all and refuses to take any action whatsoever against women lying about molest and other false accusations of sex crimes.

Notice also how this officer shamelessly went from asserting that it didn’t happen to asserting that it didn’t matter. If it didn’t matter, why did he and his subordinate try to claim it didn’t happen? Why did both of them turn tail and back off from that claim once I reminded them again that other officers in the SPF knew it happened? You also cannot say it was merely a slip of the tongue, he carelessly misspoke. The replies he gave before showed a deliberate heading toward his first claim, which he had to retract and dismiss because I brought up the Serious Sexual Crimes Branch.

Likewise his attempt to make it about language, a misunderstanding over her choice of words, that my accuser did not mean molest as the police understand it. Nope. That is why the Serious Sexual Crimes Branch interviewed her, to make sure she knew exactly what she was saying and what the police took it to mean. The very fact that the Serious Sexual Crimes Branch began interviewing me with the statement “You have been accused of molest by XXX. We are going to arrest you, is there anything you wish to say first?” meant that my accuser was very clear and deliberate in her accusation. No misunderstanding over words at all.

ii) Wrongful Confinement and How They Investigate a 182

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“We feel that there is no criminal investigation or criminal intent on both parties, that’s why we have taken no further action against both of you.”

https://www.channelnewsasia.com/singapore/general-manager-fined-wrongful-confinement-foreign-workers-593501

In the above case, the manager was fined for wrongful confinement even though we can see that what he did was done without criminal intent. He was trying to control uncooperative workers during a season when the COVID lockdown and restrictions could have massively affected business and the physical health of the other workers.

So when it comes to the wrongful confinement committed against me, is the lack of criminal intent a relevant issue? Or an excuse this officer expected laymen like me to accept without question?

J: How did he come to the conclusion that there was no criminal intent?

“After interviewing the other party”

And when I asked for more details, he pleaded confidentiality.

The police records from that night show that the other party already was found to have lied about her accusations against me, both about carrying weapons and the outrage of modesty. And this high-ranking officer from the Clementi Div General Investigation Squad takes her word for it that there was no criminal intent? Is he merely mentally incapable of doing real investigation work? Or did he accept any answer so he can close the case without having to do real work? You draw your own conclusions.

This bo-chap attitude towards wrongful confinement is not a small matter. In Lesson 03 I pointed out the connection between wrongful confinement, secondary locations and thus self-defence. If you are involved in teaching REAL self-defence, especially to women, you should already be bringing up all this to your students. They need to know that this is a common move criminals use in more severe crimes against women and recognize when it is being set-up against them. My personal experience with Clementi Div over the wrongful confinement of 19 Oct 2020 makes me suspect we cannot count on them to help innocent parties in similar situations. If you believe likewise, it is up to us laymen to consult with crime prevention experts and with lawyers to see what steps we can take to protect ourselves and our loved ones.

Investigating 182 (Clementi Div Style)

Audio from 13:00 to 13:46 of the phone call of 02 Nov 2021

“That’s not how 182 works. Like what I told you, these all are confidential information, similar to how now she request can I know what Mr Huang tell about me.”

So according to this officer from the General Investigation Squad, they are able to determine the truth of the claims made about me on 19 Oct 2020 WITHOUT having to ask me about them at all. And to avoid answering how he did that, he pulls out the confidentiality card.

Are you going to believe him? The very same person who earlier in this very same phone call claimed that there was no molest accusation and then had to flip prata because I reminded him of the Serious Sexual Crimes Branch there on that night?

Backtrack:

On 19 Oct 2020, the uniformed police first informed me of the accusation of carrying a controlled weapon, searched me for weapons, and then told me of the molest accusation. The officers from the SSCB confirmed that the accusation was made by this other party and they were intending to arrest me for it.

What I found out ever since was that the officers were supposed to inform me of the where and when of the alleged molest. It does not have to be specific; these are experts and they know that genuine victims of sexual assault can have vague, hazy recollections of the details because they were traumatized. The job of the experts is to be able to get enough details or at least a general direction, to be able to state the charge to the accused. It can be as vague as “On or around June 2020, you were alleged to have molested XXX in her car/home.” At the time of the charge they do not need to go into details about whether it was in the back seat or front, in the kitchen, bedroom or during Zoom meetings. 

The fact that they didn’t give a when suggests that my accuser claimed that I molested her on multiple occasions. This allows us to make intelligent guesses as to where.

If she said “He molested me on multiple occasions in my car” they would ask “Why then did you allow him into your car again and again?”

If she said “He molested me on multiple occasions at my home” they would ask “Why then did you allow him into your home again and again?”

If she said “He molested me on multiple occasions at the workplace” they will ask for the CCTV footage and ask “Why then didn’t you fire him?” Was she going to say “Because he is such a great employee; he does his work so well I needed him for my business”? I don’t think so. But if she did, can I put that on my resume and my LinkedIn Profile?

Yes, I know it all sounds like a joke. But the only way she can make her primary school compo story writing sound plausible is to claim I threatened her (and/or maybe the clients) with physical harm in order to intimidate her into submission. That way, her claim that I carry on my person a controlled weapon (illegally) totally makes sense. Now if that is true, her 182 against me was not only about outrage of modesty  (Section 354) but also about criminal intimidation (Section 503).

16 July 2021, the inspector conducting the investigation asked absolutely no questions about the locations, the time frames and or even the baton my accuser claimed I carried on my person. Of course, he wanted to claim the molest accusation never happened, and he made that claim at the end of that interview. And this means by 02 Nov 2021 the General Investigation Squad had no evidence or information from me on record to indicate what in my accuser’s false reports was deliberate untruth.

And yet this officer could claim he investigated the case properly without such information from me. Maybe the General Investigation Squad under his command relies on astrology, tarot cards or ouija boards?

Summary 02 Nov 2021 Phone Call

He first claimed he investigated the case properly, and yet he directly lied that the molest accusation did not take place.

He claimed that the wrongful confinement was without criminal intent, and for that he depended on the word of a woman who already by 19 Oct 2020 was shown to have lied in her police report about me.

He also claimed that he investigated a 182 against me without needing any details from me whatsoever about the supposed time frame and location of my accuser’s flights of fiction.

Ladies and Gentlemen, I present to you the Clementi Division General Investigation Squad. This is how they do work and conduct investigations.

Why do I go into so much detail about what the Clementi Div General Investigation Squad did in mishandling my case? Besides for the sake of educating the public, these details will tell men reporting 182s in the future what to watch out for if the police investigating their cases choose not to be honest. I went into this situation blind, not knowing what to look out for. Even though I listened through the recording of the call on 02 Nov 2021 many times immediately after the call. there were details and nuances that I picked up only recently when I listened through the recording again. I put all these details out here so that the next guy won’t have to figure out everything from scratch, like I did.

Python-Talk

“If she alleged molest then there would be a different form of action taken against you, right?”

Python-Talk is what I call a common tactic used by politicians, bureaucrats and the like to mislead. They use a question to answer a question, inviting you to draw the wrong conclusion based on your incomplete understanding of matters. This comes out most frequently with yes/no questions.

This person tried to insinuate that there was no molest accusation made, according to him, different action would have been taken on me if there was a molest accusation. The inspector interviewing me on 16 July 2021 said so directly, talking about arrest, handcuffs, the lockup and such, saying that if all the above did not happen there was no accusation of molest.

On the night of 19 Oct 2020, Serious Sexual Crimes Branch officers were present. And they explicitly told me of the accusation.

So what the inspector claimed and his superior insinuated, though plausible sounding, was false. The reason I was not arrested and detained in the lockup was because I myself followed what I taught in Lesson 02 and prepared records and evidence ahead of time, not because there was no molest accusation.

By the way, notice that in order to cover up for a 182, two officers intimately familiar with the details of the accusations made against me had to pretend the accusations did not happen. This strongly suggests to me that the details of the accusations, the statements and all that made on 19 Oct 2020, were very obviously a 182. Draw your own conclusions.

A rough and ready guide to Python-Talk: anytime someone answers a yes/no question with another question instead of giving you a direct answer, your guard should be up even higher. Sometimes calling it out directly is enough to shock the person into a direct answer. Whether that answer is truthful or not, it allows you to carry on with the interview process.

Basic Format of Python-Talk:

“Did you do ABC?”

Normal deflection – “Do I look like someone who would do that” Or “I thought you know me well enough by now?”

Python-Talk – “If I did do ABC, ______, right?”

Don’t be shy to call out such misleading evasiveness from SPF officers who try to hoodwink you.

Trending Toward Dishonesty

We have looked at (and heard) police officers with what in Lesson 02 would be called lies that make no sense, lies that are too easily disproven and shown to be untrue. Does this mean that the Inspector who interviewed me on 16 July 2021, and his superior officer who called me on 02 Nov 2021, are people who trend toward dishonesty? With just this one case it is very difficult to say, but you cannot rule out the possibility.

Generally speaking, people who trend toward dishonesty tend to end up in three situations, career-wise:

1) They are known to be untruthful and unreliable, so their careers are stalled at low-end jobs where their character flaws usually cause the least amount of damage to those around them;

2) They strike out on their own, in work that allows them to be quite independent of scrutiny. Freelancers, solo salespeople or owners of small businesses, who only need to make sufficient clients happy while shortchanging their staff in various ways.

3) They rise up in a hierarchy to a position where their superiors trust them and give them leeway to make decisions on their own discretion. This is not impossible, it comes from luck, carrying favour with superiors and eventually getting to a position they can blame other people for their own wrongs.

Again, I am not saying that the two officers I mentioned above are such people, one incident is not sufficient for me to tell. But I am saying that you cannot think “That officer is an inspector, or a chief investigation officer, surely he or she won’t lie to me…” That is foolish.

An example of how this might turn out. About six months after the false accusation was made against you, to which you immediately replied with a report of 182 on your accuser, the investigation officer calls you one day and says “This is to inform you that we have concluded our investigations into this case and no further action will be taken against you. We will likewise be closing the case on the report you made against XYZ.”

Stop.

Listen.

In this hypothetical situation, did this officer say that the 182 did not take place? Or they have decided that there were not strong enough grounds for them to take action? Or did this officer merely say that she is closing the case you made against your accuser for lying to the police about you?

Many people do not hear what is actually said but fill in the blanks with their own conjectures and inferences. They then remember the officer as saying the 182 did not take place when the officer said nothing of that sort. That is why Cube ACR and other phone call recording apps are VITAL in such situations.

Python-talk depends on you filling in the blanks yourself and then firmly taking your own conjectures as true. Your only hope of not being gaslighted by dishonest people in this way is in your ability to observe, interpret and remember details. This applies whether you are speaking to someone from the Singapore Police Force or otherwise.

Don’t Be DARVO-ed

Deny – Accuse – Reverse Victim & Offender

I talked about DARVO in Lesson 02. It often occurs when confronting abusive people, whether criminal or otherwise. Whenever it happens it is bad enough, but it becomes especially wicked when police and other authority figures join in.  Often, when a member of the police force chooses to be dishonest, a DARVO situation results. The victim is seen as the culprit and the culprit is presented as a victim.

In the forgery case, it was obvious: Kalaivani made out the victim of molest to be guilty of making a false accusation against the man.

This is an absolute nightmare, because if a genuine victim is not believed by the authorities, she faces actual physical danger of reprisals from her attacker against her and her loved ones. This, along with trying to overcome all the grooming and psychological manipulation her attacker put her through, puts a woman who makes a police report against her attacker under severe emotional and mental oppression. And to be told she was seen by the authorities as a liar, about to face punishment for reporting her attacker, could have broken her.  

In the NUS case Kalaivani threatened the victim with being charged with doxxing and harassment. “She also told me that my perpetrator had been going through a lot after the case came to light in the media.”

Such a move is despicable. Most of the time, the men who commit sexual assault have some prior relationship or connection to their victims, therefore it can get very difficult to make the report in the first place. I know of one woman who was assaulted in her own home by a man she knew for some time. She refused to report that man to the police because she was concerned about the effect on her attacker’s wife and children. You can tell that I don’t understand or agree with her decision at all, but the fact remains, some women do feel guilt over reporting their attackers to the authorities. Kalaivani saying the perpetrator had been suffering after the case became publicly known is, I suspect, an attempt to induce guilt and either cause the victim to drop the case or to confess to being responsible for the media finding out about the case.

For the forgery case, if the victim was intimidated by the circumstances into keeping silent instead of protesting her innocence, the forgery could have gone totally unnoticed. Thank God she had the courage to speak up. I know of people who would discourage her from speaking up. They would have said “It’s just a warning, you won’t face any lasting consequences from it. You can just keep quiet and not make a fuss…” But because she spoke up, the forgery was discovered, and the police later properly investigated the molest case she reported.

On 16 July 2021 the inspector who later lied about there being no molest accusation actually made the comment about my efforts to bring the 182 woman to justice, “Don’t you think she will feel harassed?”

I have little sympathy even for those who deserve it, do I look like I have any sympathy at all for a 182 woman? Remember, any false accusation of molest or other sex crimes is an attempt to use the Singapore Police Force, the Courts and our society at large to ruin and destroy your life. And with that, the damage and trauma spreads to your parents, your wife and your children. There are obviously many other 182 women around who succeeded in causing damage to some degree and escaped justice. Am I supposed to have any sympathy for one who chose the wrong target and thus failed in her attempt?

What Am I Trying to Achieve Here?

To inform the public of the various ways dishonest police officers can mishandle your case

So that

1) The public is aware of the situations that may arise

2) The next person who investigates such police activity does not have to start from scratch

3) You know it is easier to just cut off 182 women from your life before they cause you irreparable damage and you can get no legal redress

Conclusion:

Life isn’t always about you triumphing over the wicked, and the good guys live happily ever after. Sometimes the best you can do is keep the wicked, the evil, the perverse, from causing the most damage to your life, and in the process remind them that there are still people around who see through their deception and will stand up against it. If because of what we do, the 182 women and the dishonest officers within the Singapore Police Force tread just that little bit more cautiously before they victimize someone else, I think we’d have done some good, whatever little good we can do with what we have.

“Saruman believes it is only great power that can hold evil in check, but that is not what I have found. It is the small everyday deeds of ordinary folk that keep the darkness at bay. Small acts of kindness and love. – Gandalf, The Hobbit (movie)

And to kindness and love, I’d add truth and courage. When you face 182 women, a society that trivializes what they do and dishonest police officers who pretend the crimes they committed did not happen, sometimes that is all you have left. Courage to speak truth, and if it fails to bring justice at least you know the truth. You know you did not swallow the lie they tried to force-feed you. Even if they successfully sabo-ed the case, you at least know that you did your best to fight for justice, even against the odds. That is how you avoid cognitive dissonance and despising yourself later on in your life.

Rounding Up

If you are from the Serious Sexual Crimes Branch and wish to help me, please contact me at junjie.jayren@gmail.com. We arrange a meeting to talk and we see if you are able to help me further my investigations without violating your own confidentiality requirements. You may record our conversation and discussions if you wish.

If you are from any other department of the Singapore Police Force and you wish to investigate the mishandling of my case, I am willing to meet you personally, answer all your questions and transfer to you the recording of the 02 Nov 2021 phone call. Email me directly and we can make arrangements.  

Again, if you have professional expertise in related fields such as the law, police work or such and you wish to collaborate, please email me at junjie.jayren@gmail.com With this, we move on to the final lesson – if your case goes to trial. See you at Lesson 06

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Lying About Molest: Lesson 04 Talking to the Police

The three situations when you might be talking to the police:

A) When you are first accused

B) If you are arrested

C) When you are reporting your accuser for Lying About Molest (Section 182)

Disclaimer:

The details here are specific to Singapore, and are to my knowledge accurate as of the moment this lesson is created. If you are from another country, you will have to talk with a lawyer from there to get the details applicable to you.

The details given here are specific to false accusations of molest and other sex crimes. If you are more concerned about other situations that you may find yourself in, seek out professional advice.

If you have already been falsely accused, engage a lawyer immediately.

My Own Experience

žOn 19 Oct 2020, I called for police assistance over a case of wrongful confinement (Section 340)

žSometime after being interviewed by the responding police, I was first informed that I was accused of carrying a baton and, after being searched for weapons, of outrage of modesty. žOfficers from the Serious Sexual Crimes Branch confirmed the accusation of outrage of modesty after interviewing my accuser. They expressed the intent to arrest me but changed their minds after taking my statement.

A) When You Are First Accused

žIf you are a decent, law-abiding citizen, hearing the accusation can hit you hard. Fear, anger, betrayal, helplessness are common emotions.

žHowever, you cannot let your emotions cause you to:

1) lose your cool and make mistakes
2) shock you into silence

A false accusation of molest or other sex crimes is an attempt to use the Singapore Police Force, the Courts and the rest of society to ruin your life. Therefore you need to call upon all your courage, calm and wisdom to navigate this treacherous situation.

Analogy: driving a child to hospital in a medical emergency – this is the mindset you should maintain if there is a direct threat to your well-being, whether the threat be criminal actions in general or false accusations in particular.

žYour goals: to not be arrested

žžThe problem: outrage of modesty is an arrestable offence.

žThis means that the police do not need to obtain a warrant of arrest before arresting you. I understand it to mean that the police on the scene are not even obligated to take a statement from you first before arresting you; they are perfectly within their rights to arrest you, detain you in the police lockup, and then take a statement from you on the matter at their convenience, not yours.

žWhat might be the concerns of the police present at the scene?

They are aware that being accused of any sex crime, whether truthfully or not, is an emotionally-charged situation. The accused, if guilty, may seek to exact revenge upon the woman reporting him, if not immediately then within the near future. The woman reporting him has a legitimate reason to be fear for the safety of her loved ones and for herself. If the accused is not guilty, he may still lose his temper at the dishonest woman for maliciously lying about him (and threaten her), or do something that the woman can report to the police as intimidation, harassment or other similar offences.

It is easier for the police to just arrest the accused, let him cool down in the lockup, and thus remove any immediate problems that he may cause. Therefore if you do not wish to be arrested, you have to show (not tell) the police that they can rely on you to not cause trouble and give them a greater mess to handle.

Therefore:

• Speak calmly
• Watch your body language
• Do not display your anger or your fear
• Do not hesitate over your answers
• Do not hold back your answers
• Don’t bring in irrelevant topics

Big picture:  don’t do stuff that the police present at the scene can construe to be challenging, defiant or an attempt to be irritating. At all times in the process, the police present at the scene need to feel they are in control of the situation.

Remember, they are not your enemies. They are merely the one of the tools your accuser is using against you. Save your anger for bringing her to justice later on.

My Threshold Point

This was the location I was interviewed by the officers from the Serious Sexual Crimes Branch (19 Oct 2020) after they informed me of the accusation and their intent to arrest me. I was fortunate they chose to take my statement first; they did not owe me that opportunity.

Whatever advice I have given here is not a theoretical thought experiment; it was what I myself did. No matter how prepared I was, when it mattered my heart was still pounding and adrenaline was still coursing through me. My hands were cold, as if I could already feel the metallic handcuffs on my wrists. And I still managed to pull it off.

Being prepared makes a world of difference

B) If You Are Arrested

If, in spite of your best efforts, the police at the scene still decide to arrest you, your goals shift to:

DON’T SAY/DO ANYTHING STUPID

Once you are notified of the arrest (they place a hand on your person and verbally inform you of the arrest) you should seek immediate permission to notify your family (or someone reliable). Depending on the time of the day a text message is probably the best. Indicate your full name and NRIC number and the Police Station you will be brought to.

The Problem: If you are not a lawyer or a career criminal, your first time facing all this will likely be distressing and frightening. Therefore it is possible that the stress and fear may cause you to make mistakes.

My goal here: give you a good sense of what to expect and how to navigate this alien situation so that you are able to regulate the panic and other emotions. This is to help prevent you from making damaging mistakes with irreversible consequences.

I want you to be able to say: I know what is coming up; I know roughly how to handle it. I will make it through this.

Word to Parents – When your children get to about 15 years old or so, you’ll have to decide if you want to have them educated in police arrest procedures so that they do not freak out should they be arrested. Your decision will largely depend on whether your children are the sort who behave themselves only because the thought of being arrested frightens them into behaving properly. At the very least, however, you should make them aware of the Appropriate Adults Scheme

According to the Singapore Children’s Society,

The Appropriate Adult Scheme for Young Suspects (AAYS) trains staff members and volunteers, and matches them to support young suspects who need to attend law enforcement interviews. These young suspects are under the age of 17 years old. These trained volunteers are referred to as Appropriate Adults (AAs).

The AAs are trained to:

(i) look out for signs of distress in the young suspect,

(ii) aid communication between the young suspect and the investigation officer,

(iii) provide emotional support when necessary.

You can read an article about it at the following website.

https://www.gjclaw.com.sg/articles/appropriate-adult-schemes-in-singapore/

You may wish to tell your children that should they ever be arrested and be required to attend police interviews, they should request for the presence and assistance of a trained volunteer under the Appropriate Adult Scheme during the interview.

What Do Lawyers want YOU to know?

You cannot be held in custody for more than 48 hours without a charge or court order

The accused must be released after 48 hours unless the police have formally charged them with an offence or been granted approval by the court. If you are charged, you will usually be released until your court hearing on condition of bail in the form of cash or personal property. However, if the offence is serious or you are considered a flight risk, you may be denied bail and detained until the hearing.

You can question and object to any detainment exceeding 48 hours

If the authorities wish to detain you for longer than 48 hours, they will need to provide the court with a valid reason for doing so. While the court has the final say, you have the right to object and ask for an explanation as to why they are applying to hold you in custody.

Taken from https://www.singaporecriminaldefencelawyer.com/being-arrested-in-singapore-know-your-rights/

If you are arrested over a false molest accusation, you would already have been informed of the charge, so that particular right is less applicable in this situation.

But the clock is ticking. The police have to either release you or have you formally charged in court (where you can choose to plead guilty or claim trial) within 48 hours of the arrest.

Why is this important to know?

The entire process of being arrested is alien, confusing and disorienting. People who are emotionally and mentally vulnerable may think the only way to get themselves out of this distress is to confess immediately to the crime they have been accused of.

Knowing the time limit tells you that the waiting will not go on indefinitely.

Dealing with the Waiting

• Sleep
• Breathing exercises – Huberman Physiological Sigh
• Inform the police immediately if during the waiting process you need medical attention (eg: missed medications, dizziness, headache or weakness).

You have a right NOT to say anything that could tend to show you are guilty of any crime; and

You HAVE to say anything that could tend to show that you are innocent of the offence for which you are being investigated, or any fact that supports a defence to such an offence. During the interrogation, if you don’t state a fact that shows you are innocent or supports a defence, the court does not have to consider it seriously if you raise it only later.

Finally, you are required to tell the police what you know of the facts of a suspected crime (unless those facts would tend to incriminate you).

Taken from https://singaporelegaladvice.com/law-articles/right-to-lawyer-arrested-singapore/

Within the boundaries of the truth, the police and the courts oblige you put forth the STRONGEST case in your defense.

Corollary – if you do NOT present the best case for your innocence, the courts and the police are not obligated to build your defense for you. A sloppy or half-baked attempt to defend yourself only makes it harder for you to state your innocence later on. If you admit guilt to a crime you did not commit, whatever your excuses, the courts have no reason to consider that you might be innocent.

When it comes to other accusations of other crimes, putting forth the best defense possible, based on the truth, can get complicated.

But when it comes to false accusations of molest and other sex crimes, the best defense is simple: YOU DID NOT DO IT.

What if you don’t believe you can give that solid a defence of your innocence?

If the police claim they have witnesses and/or evidence against you:

During the trial, your lawyer will get to evaluate the evidence presented and cross-examine the witnesses brought against you. For you to be found guilty, the judge has to be “… satisfied beyond reasonable doubt, that the accused has committed the offence charged” (K Shanmugan, Law Minister, 25 Aug 2008). To keep you out of jail over a false accusation, your lawyer does not need to prove that you are innocent, he/she just needs to show that the case against you, based on the evidence and witnesses presented, is not proven to the point of being beyond reasonable doubt .

But if you immediately plead guilty to a crime you did not commit, you have no such opportunity for your lawyer to battle on your behalf. You move from there directly to sentencing, and all you can do then is pray fervently you are not punished too severely for a crime you did not commit.

You would have cooperated with your accuser and made successful her attempt to ruin your life.

The Cautioned Statement

“You have been charged with (or informed that you may be prosecuted for) [Charge].

Do you want to say anything about the charge that was just read to you? If you keep quiet now about any fact or matter in your defence and you reveal this fact or matter in your defence only at your trial, the judge may be less likely to believe you. This may have a bad effect on your case in court. Therefore, it may be better for you to mention such fact or matter now. If you wish to do so, what you say will be written down, read back to you for any mistakes to be corrected and then signed by you.”

https://smulexicon.com/2021/10/06/the-state-of-statements-in-singapores-legal-system/

You have the right to rectify or delete any part of the statement before signing

The police will often require an arrested person to detail their account of an incident with a written statement, which must be truthful and in English. Importantly, you have the right to amend and delete any part of your statement before you sign it, and you can request for the statement to be video recorded instead. The police cannot force you to sign the statement until you are satisfied with its accuracy, and if the accused does not speak English, it must be interpreted to them in a language they understand.

Taken from https://www.singaporecriminaldefencelawyer.com/being-arrested-in-singapore-know-your-rights/

Before giving the statement:  are you experiencing dizziness, nausea, headache or weakness? If so, request medical attention.

When answering the questions:

Useful phrases – “I believe _____.” (when you are not certain)

“(State fact) and I believe I have the records to verify this in my notes/phone/records.”

“(Person X) did A, B and C, which is consistent with a person attempting to ______ , therefore I ______”

“I do not know.”

“At that point of time, I had the impression that ______ “

Such phrases are NOT secret ninja-magic Jedi mind-control techniques to hypnotize the police into complying with your wishes , but they can add clarity and precision to your answers to their questions.

Because you are obligated to give the best defence you have against the accusation, you are given the right to rectify or delete any part of the statement before signing, until it accurately reflects what you want to say to the police.

Corollary: you HAVE to sign the statement. When you sign the statement, you are telling the police “This is what I want to say about the accusation. I sign here on the statement to show that I stand by this and will take responsibility for my account.”

If you refuse to sign the statement, you are clearly showing the police that whatever you have said in the statement is a joke. And now is NOT the time for jokes.

It becomes much simpler to state your defense and point the police to evidence for your innocence if you have followed what was taught in Lessons 02 and 03; you already identified your accuser as someone who trends toward dishonesty, you recognized the triggers and prepared your records in advance against that possibility .

When the officers from Serious Sexual Crimes Unit inform you of the accusation, they are supposed to give you the date, time and place the woman claims you molested her.

For my case, the officers from the SSCB did not give me the date, time and place at all. From that I inferred that my accuser had claimed I repeatedly molested her over an extended period of time. Claiming that I carry a baton (weapon) with me suggests that she accused me either of violence or threatening violence. That allowed me to choose what direction to take and thus what evidence and records to show the officer interviewing me on the false molest accusation.

Present all the evidence you have available when you claim your innocence.

Example: if your accuser claims you were sexually harassing her while she had no romantic interest in you at all, such chat records might be useful to show her accusation was obviously false.

If you do not have the supporting evidence immediately on hand, you can say in your statement “I have _____ records as evidence for my account of the events.” If you are not certain, you can say “I believe I have ____ records as evidence for my account of the events.”

When you read through the statement again before signing, check to make sure the important details are included. It is your legal right to insist the interrogation officer include the details you consider important to your case.

16 July 2021

a) After months of delay and trying to ignore me, that investigation squad finally arranged to meet me and take my statement.

b) During the interview, person A asked absolutely no questions about the matters involved with the Lying About Molest case on 19 Oct 2020.

c) He then claimed there was no accusation of molest made that night. When I pointed out that the police present and later the Serious Sexual Crimes Branch officers told me of the accusation, person A ignored that and left the interview room.

d) Person B, the original I/O of the accusation made against me, was present and typing down the answers to the questions Person A asked.

e) She then presented the statement I was to sign, but it totally left out the crucial details that showed an accusation of molest was made that night.

f) I insisted that those details be included before I signed the statement. She did so.

Lie-Detector Tests

Key points:

1. The results are not admissible in court as evidence

2. “If you are asked to submit to a polygraph test, the good news is that the police clearly haven’t decided to recommend prosecution yet. ”

3. You have the right to refuse the test, but should make that decision only after consulting with a criminal lawyer.

Taken from https://singaporelegaladvice.com/law-articles/lie-detector-test-singapore-faqs/

C) Reporting the 182

Making a false police report about molest or other sex crimes is a CRIMINAL offence, one that can lead to a jail term for the dishonest woman. Why toy around with half-measures instead of trying to put that criminal in jail?

In my experience, the police is not interested in taking action over false accusations of sex crimes. If you leave it to them to decide on whether to look into this crime against you, you will be sorely disappointed.

If you choose not to take action to pursue justice for yourself you will have shown:

1) Your accuser that you are prey

2) Dishonest women that they can get away with lying about molest and other sex crimes

3) Yourself that you do not deserve justice

My experience: reporting the 182 was deeply frustrating because I got to see the police deliberately mishandle the case. But I could face up to my conscience and know I did all that I knew to do to pursue justice for myself. I have no regrets over putting in all that time and effort to report the 182.

But what DO I regret?

i)I regret not installing a phone call recording app earlier.

žYou need an app that automatically records every incoming call you receive. Why? Because when the police call you to talk about the case, they will identify themselves at the beginning of the call. If you need to activate the app yourself for every individual call,

ža) you might just forget

žb) you might miss recording the caller identifying himself/herself  as from the SPF

In my case, the officers from that Investigation Squad were deliberately giving me misinformation in order to mishandle my case. If I got the app earlier I would have been able to gather more evidence about how widespread the mishandling was.

ii) Not making the police report on the 182 immediately

I now realize that:

a) you have the right to report the 182

b) reporting the 182 allows you to take the initiative in presenting your evidence of the crime the dishonest woman committed against you

c) reporting the 182 does not hurt your case when it comes to the molest accusation. At the very least you get to put forth evidence that would help you defend against the false accusation.

d) Delays only give your accuser time to refine her story against you. And it gives her more time for evidence in your favour (such as CCTV footage) to get “accidentally” deleted, damaged or lost.

iii) Not getting the name of the officer from the Serious Sexual Crimes Branch that informed me of the molest accusation and interviewed me on the night of 19 Oct 2020.

žPeople from the Investigation Squad tried to convince me the molest accusation did not happen in the first place. The very presence of the SSCB that night shows that claim to be a blatant lie.

žWhenever you report a crime, the more relevant details you can provide the police, the easier it is for them to investigate your case. This applies to EVERY crime you report to the police. Once you see the 182 being set up, you should be trying to remember and record every possible detail. And later on, write down as many of those details as possible. Why? Because even if the SPF actually sincerely wants to investigate your case, it will take time. And you weaken your own case by getting details wrong or forgetting them.

Do You Make the Report Online?

Reporting in person is better if you do not have the ability to express yourself properly. A sincere police officer will ask questions to prompt you on details he/she thinks ought to be included in the report.

When it comes to a false accusation of molest, they may tell you to wait until the investigations on that accusation are completed first. But if you delay and wait, you may:

a) be too tired to pursue the case then

b) forget crucial details that support your case

Report online

It depends on your ability to express yourself clearly and concisely in English.  I prefer to report online, since it gives me a lot more control over the process.

To make an online police report, go to https://www.police.gov.sg/ and click on e-services

On the e-services page, you will find the link to click for making a report.

You then login in with your SingPass.

After that you will be redirected to such a page. After you fill in the form, you will begin the actual process of making the report. The screen should look something like the following image.

You ought to type out the report on a word processor first, because the main text box has a 4000 character limit.

And likewise prepare all your evidence before you start this process. Make sure it fits the format and file size accepted by the website.

What should you bring up in your report?

ž… [T]he Prosecution must establish that: (a) the accused person gave information to a public servant; (b) such information was false; (c) the accused person knew or believed that such information was false; and (d) the accused person intended or knew it to be likely that the information would be acted upon by the public servant in the manner contemplated by the provision. …

žhttps://www.elitigation.sg/gdviewer/SUPCT/gd/2021_SGHC_70

(a) The accused person gave information to a public servant – include the police report number and names of the interviewing officers if possible

(b) such information was false – this is where you include the evidence for your innocence

(c) the accused person knew or believed that such information was false – usually this is the same as the above, but sometimes immediately after making the accusation the dishonest woman makes a critical slip-up.

(d) the accused person intended or knew it to be likely that the information would be acted upon by the public servant in the manner contemplated by the provision.

Make sure your evidence is clearly labeled

Highlight critical parts of the evidence and refer to them in your report. “<name> confined me in office premises against my will. SMS record 3B shows that I tried to use the emergency door button to leave the premises but to no avail.”

Evidence can include chat records interactions with the dishonest woman:

Nursyafiqah Jasmi –”The police seized her mobile phone for investigations, which eventually revealed numerous text messages showing that they were having an affair.”

https://www.todayonline.com/singapore/married-police-officer-falsely-accuses-colleague-lover-molest-1944151

Sumaini – A maid who had an affair with her employer’s husband and had consensual sex with him on two occasions later lied to the police, claiming that the man had raped her… The DPP said that after recording Sumaini’s statement, the policeman checked her mobile phone and discovered text messages exchanged on Facebook Messenger between the maid and her employer’s husband. The police seized her mobile phone for investigations, which eventually revealed numerous text messages showing that they were having an affair

https://www.straitstimes.com/singapore/courts-crime/jail-for-maid-who-lied-to-police-that-employers-husband-had-raped-her

Be alert to slip-ups from the dishonest woman immediately after the accusation. Sometimes she gives you useful evidence served up on a platter.

After you have submitted the report, you should receive an email notification that would look something like this.

žThe guiding principle is to make it as easy as possible for a sincere police officer to see what is going on and decide to commence investigations. So be organized and concise.ž

žWhat if the police officers involved are NOT sincere? That is what we will look at in Lesson 05

žBig picture:

If you have ever been falsely accused of outrage of modesty, once you encounter a woman who made you her target for lying about molest, evil is no longer abstract or merely a philosophical question. It’s now in your face and personal.

How a man relates with evil shows you the measure of a man.ž

1) Practices evil – he is a criminal and an abuser

2) Ignores evil and does nothing. This could be because

a) he himself practices evil
b) he has no moral spine of his own, so he does not care
c) he is a coward who knows what is right but has no guts to do it

If you know such a person, would you dare trust him in anything important, such as work, friendship or the like?

3) Surrenders to evil – in our case, a man falsely accused of molest and who does not seek justice against the dishonest woman. Such a man is a victim. Did his parents expended their blood, sweat and tears to bring him into the world and raise him, just for him to choose to cower in fear and surrender to wickedness? Can such a man even think of ever getting married and raising a family? If he won’t even stand up for himself, what makes you think he will protect his wife and his children?

4) Stands up against evil, for himself and for those around him. This man I salute.

Be prudent. Be astute. Be wise. But also be brave. Be the kind of person your parents would be proud of, and your wife and children know will protect them. Any society can head two directions: it can be indifferent to dishonesty and wickedness (and thus let evil thrive), or it can stand for justice. When you choose to stand up against evil, your actions may create a ripple effect that can make your society the type of place you want your wife and children to live in.

Again, if what I do here resonates with you, help me stand against evil by sharing these lessons (the videos and these notes on my blog) with your friends, family and associates. Help me to help more people with this.

If you have professional knowledge that might help others and you wish to collaborate, please email me. Let’s see what we can work out. My email address is junjie.jayren@gmail.com

See you at Lesson 05

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Lying About Molest – Lesson 03

Taking Precautions – Know Thyself, Guard Thyself

Reflection And Awareness

Lifestyle of Reflection And Awareness – what went wrong that day? What went right? What could possibly go wrong next? To keep this from degenerating into paranoia and depression, you need to be consciously aware of the difference between normal, abnormal and dangerous.

Marc MacYoung – Normal, Abnormal and Dangerous http://www.nononsenseselfdefense.com/NADs.htm

Examples: hearing shouts in the middle of the night? Police presence in a public housing area?

When you go through your daily life with this awareness, you are better able to:

• Know when you can afford to relax because you ARE safe
• Notice when hostile people are positioning themselves to harm you
• Describe their behaviour and explain your reactions to the authorities, media and the police

I did not learn about criminal behaviour in order to prevent false molest accusations; I studied criminal behaviour to protect myself from crime. And on 19 Oct 2020, the crime I successfully protected myself from was that of a false molest accusation.

How does this apply when it comes to Lying About Molest?

Lovedeep Kuar

The couple began arguing when he tried to explain his intentions, before Mrs Singh confronted Lovedeep. Lovedeep called the police a few minutes later. When officers arrived at the scene, she told them that before Mrs Singh got home, Mr Singh had molested her. In light of the allegations, a senior investigation officer went to the flat to interview them at about 11pm.

If you were there, would you have recognized the warning signs? Would you have been able to de-escalate the situation? Or would you yourself have been affected and made things worse?

When she is on the verge of meltdown

Background: On 3 August 2021, Raeesah Khan, then a Member of Parliament under the Sengkang GRC, lied in Parliament when she claimed to have accompanied a victim of sexual assault to a police station, where the victim was treated insensitively. On 4 Oct 2021 she doubled down on that claim in Parliament when the Minister for Home Affairs (who oversaw the Singapore Police Force) sought more details in order to investigate the alleged mishandling of the case. Only on 1 Nov 2021 did Raeesah Khan admit that the claim she made on 3 Aug 2021 was false. She then claimed that she heard of this alleged case from a support group for women who had suffered from sex crimes, and that she attended that group because she too was a victim of sexual assault.

https://www.todayonline.com/singapore/raeesah-khans-lie-timeline-events-leading-findings-parliaments-privileges-committee-1814026

At this point, Ms Indranee Rajah steps forward to question Raeesah Khan. She was appointed to the role of Leader of the House by the Prime Minister himself; and before she entered politics she was a senior lawyer. She was a powerful woman both before and after entering into politics. And YET, if you look at how she proceeded to interact with Raeesah Khan (when Raeesah Khan was clearly under immense emotional pressure), notice how cautiously Ms Indranee Rajah spoke and how carefully she chose her words.

https://sprs.parl.gov.sg/search/#/sprs3topic?reportid=personal-explanation-1767

So if even as powerful a woman as Ms Indranee Rajah proceeds carefully in such a situation, us regular folk have no excuse. If you anticipate having to talk with women on the verge of emotional meltdown in the future, I highly recommend you seek out proper training from qualified professionals.

Hooking up after alcohol

Not talking about when there is a pre-existing romantic relationship

First Date Example

Alcohol lowers inhibitions – “Risky sexual behaviors have been correlated with alcohol use in multiple studies.This is partly due to alcohol’s negative effect on a person’s ability to think, plan, and reasonably evaluate situations, potentially leading to increased sexual risk taking.”

https://alcohol.org/effects/inhibitions/

Alcohol lowers inhibitions, which means a woman copiously drinking hard liquor while on a date with you may just be priming herself to have sex with you that night. But what will she think about the encounter the next morning? Will she regret it and then put the blame on you?

There is also the danger that after the encounter she will gradually rewrite her memories of the event and come to see you as being sexually coercive or actually assaulting her. And since Singapore has no statue of limitations when it comes to sex crimes, this might just come back to bite you many years after the event.

Affair with a married woman

Just don’t

If you get to know an interesting woman over social media (such as Instagram) and you both seem interested in each other, ask directly: “Are you married?”

Anything less than a clear yes/no answer tells you to be cautious.

Lack of Awareness – being unprepared

The confrontations with the sales representative for case of Dr Yeo Sow Nam and with Wang Shu over the illegal import of meat products went wrong because both Dr Yeo Sow Nam and the officers from the Singapore Food Authority did not think to head off potential problems before they arose. They probably had to confront other people before, and because those other people did not react with such vicious malice they assumed things would remain quite problem-free.

If you are an honest and patient person, it is difficult to deal with dishonest people who will escalate hostilities faster than you would. You will always be trying to catch up (and most likely failing).

For the case of the officers from the Singapore Food Authority, their misstep was obvious: they should not have left their colleague alone with Wang Shu, especially when it was clear Wang Shu was agitated and emotionally upheaved. Any man left alone with a woman in such an emotional state is at risk of false accusations of molest.

For Dr Yeo Sow Nam, however, besides confronting the sales representative with a witness (one of his staff) present, he could also have:

• texted the staff over Whatsapp to indicate he wanted that staff present as a witness during the confrontation
• asked the staff for feedback and impressions immediately after the confrontation.

By doing this over Whatsapp, he would have

• time-stamped the communications
• given more credibility to both his own and his staff’s recollection of the events.

For his case it may not have made much difference, since the false accusation came swiftly after the confrontation. But because there is no statue of limitations for criminal charges in Singapore, you do not know if any false accusation may arise months or even years after the event. Keeping time-stamped records promptly to give more weight to your version of the events is an easy precaution that can be easily added into your business processes or your personal lifestyle.

Wang Shu – if you ever capitulate to the demands of such a woman, whether it be to hand over incomplete statements, delete company Whatsapp chats from your personal phone or whatever, your wellbeing is based entirely on whether such a woman is in the mood to keep her promises after she gets what she wants.

When Facing a DARVO-ian woman

You can take it for granted an aggressive woman who uses bullying and intimidating behaviour (Profile of a Rapist) is all ready to cower, cry and paint herself as the hapless, helpless victim the moment you can get any help from the police or you expose her behaviour to the general public. But before you can get to that point, however, you may face serious provocation.

When the Ops Guy Tried to Resign

Provocation may be used to either pressure you into submission or to trigger you into violence (and getting yourself arrested and possibly facing criminal charges). Before you get to that point, you ought to remove yourself from that situation. Say “I do not wish to continue this conversation now. I am leaving and will inform you when we will continue this conversation.” And, depending on the severity of that conflict, you may wish to have your lawyer present when you continue that conversation.

Lawyers

When you have to interact with normal people, lawyers may add more complications. They certainly add more expenses.

But when you have to interact with DARVO-ian people, they may be a necessity. Remember, they have less qualms about escalating hostilities than you do, and may call in their lawyers even faster than you would. If you choose to face them and their lawyers without a lawyer of your own helping you, you are at a huge disadvantage. You may not know if they are taking advantage of you, and you’d certainly be unprepared for if they take legal action against you and bring you to court.

Dealing with DARVO-ians with lawyers is difficult if you do not have good lawyers on your side. It is akin to dealing with gang members without the help of the police. Can it be done? Yes, but you’d better have specialized knowledge.

Red Flag to watch out for – a woman running small scale businesses who has a law firm on retainer. That means she is paying them a fixed sum every month to be highly available to her. It could mean that she just likes to have legal advice a phone call away late at night when a thought just comes to her mind. Or it could also mean she is the sort who regularly gets into legal trouble, or wants to be able to have her lawyers threaten and harass people at a moment’s notice.

On your part, however, you may wish to build a relationship with a lawyer before any such crises hit you. Knowing a lawyer you have already found to be knowledgeable and reliable saves you from having to hunt for one when you really need one and time is of the essence.

Wrongful Confinement – if they physically hinder or restrain you from leaving.

It is an offence under Section 340 of the Singapore Penal Code. and can lead to jail terms, fines or both.

Treat any such case as a self-defence situation.

Rapists and murderers often seek to move their victims away from where they found them to what is called a secondary location. They want their victims to be where they cannot escape and where other people are not able to reach them to help them. Wrongful confinement gives the perpetrator both of these objectives. It is behaviour known to precede serious violent crimes such as rape and murder, and therefore needs to be treated accordingly

Famous Last Words – Nicole deFrense

žAccording to New York Times reporting of the trial, duFresne then confronted the attackers. “What are you going to do, you going to shoot us? Is that what you wanted?” duFresne demanded. As she shouted those words, she walked up to Rudy Fleming and looked him in the eye. Fleming reacted by pushing duFresne in the chest with his left hand. DuFresne stumbled backward, then bounced back and shouted her question again: “What are you going to do, shoot us?” Fleming pushed duFresne a second time, and when she came at him again, he lifted his right arm and fired one bullet. The bullet struck duFresne in the chest and exited through her back.

https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Murder_of_Nicole_duFresne#cite_note-7

“Emotions have to take a back seat while another part of your brain is driving your actions; actions aimed at getting you out of danger. All of your energy and thoughts need to be focused on solving the problem, not how afraid you are, how angry you are, how outraged you are or how incredulous you are that it’s happening to you.

Without practice this is harder to do than you may believe. Sitting, calmly reading this, it’s very easy to self-certify that you have this ability to set your emotions aside. But the less experience you have controlling your emotions (especially in dangerous situations) the easier it is to give in to these impulses.”

“When we are inexperienced with such situations, our emotions and our adrenaline are screaming at us to do something to get things back to normal. Unfortunately, in that uneducated state, we seldom make good decisions about what to do. Without knowledge and experience to help us control ourselves, when we are in that state, our emotions are driving our behaviour – regardless of the danger.”

Marc MacYoung – Safety Doesn’t Have To Be Scary (pg 43, 44)

Anger: practice restraint in your daily life

“Better a patient person than a warrior, one with self-control than one who takes a city.”

Fear: Put yourself into uncomfortable situations (public speaking, martial arts, performing on a music instrument) and practice regulating your behaviour.

žConclusion

It is your awareness and self-control that allows you to switch channels, to mentally prepare for action, when the situations change and you need to take precautions.

žžSelf-control and awareness are also necessary if you have failed to prevent the false molest accusation, and you are being questioned by the police. See you in Lesson 04

Questions? Please email me at junjie.jayren@gmail.com

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Lying About Molest – Lesson 02

Know When To Be On Your Guard

The most famous Chinese saying in the world – 知己知彼百战百胜

Immediate Triggers and Long-term Warning Signs

Emotional Meltdown – Lovedeep Kuar

https://www.todayonline.com/singapore/woman-jailed-10-days-lying-police-her-landlord-molested-her

“The couple began arguing when he tried to explain his intentions, before Mrs Singh confronted Lovedeep. Lovedeep called the police a few minutes later. When officers arrived at the scene, she told them that before Mrs Singh got home, Mr Singh had molested her. In light of the allegations, a senior investigation officer went to the flat to interview them at about 11pm.

During the interview, Lovedeep claimed that Mr Singh had squeezed her breasts, slid his hands down to her buttocks and told her to have sex with him while she was in the shower. She further alleged that she rejected his advances and he left the bathroom when he heard someone opening the main door. Mr Singh was then arrested and taken to the Tanglin Police Division headquarters. He was released only the following afternoon after assisting in investigations.”

The bad news and the good news

Emotional meltdowns can happen to pretty much everyone. But there is a lot you can do to prevent them and de-escalate them.

To cover for mistakes -The Case of Dr Yeo Sow Nam

27 Sep 2017 – at a business dinner with the accuser and her colleague, Dr Yeo asked the accuser for dilution ratios and medical literature for a product the accuser wished to have him purchase from the company she represented as a salesperson.

28 Sep 2017 – the accuser missed the meeting she had arranged with Dr Yeo.

9 Oct 2017 – the accuser met with Dr Yeo but failed to bring the promised medical literature. She was berated severely as a result.

12 Oct 2017 – the accuser made a police report accusing Dr Yeo of molesting her on 9 Oct 2017.

https://www.theonlinecitizen.com/2021/08/18/prosecution-withdraws-charges-against-spore-doctor-accused-of-molestation-after-alleged-victim-confessed-to-lying-during-cross-examination/

https://theindependent.sg/bertha-henson-weighs-in-on-case-of-doctor-acquitted-of-molest-complainant-was-not-a-reliable-witness/

Malice and Revenge – Dina Melina

A maid who could not repay a $1,000 loan that she received from her employer’s father-in-law agreed to have sex with him to pay it off. Later, Dina Melina tried to extort money from the father-in-law, Abu Bakar Bin Along, by impersonating Abu Bakar’s daughter-in-law and threatening to expose the sexual relationship between him and the maid.

When that failed, Melina, a 32-year-old Indonesian, lodged a police report on two separate occasions, alleging that Abu Bakar, a 70-year-old Singaporean, had raped her in one report and that he touched her body from behind without her consent in another.”

https://sg.news.yahoo.com/maid-admits-falsely-accusing-employers-father-rape-police-report-114928037.html

The Wang Shu Case

Deputy Public Prosecutor Emily Koh said that on Oct 29, 2020, the SFA officer and two colleagues went to Wang’s Pandan Loop office to investigate the case. Wang was asked to provide her statement regarding the illegal food products. She agreed and invited the officers to a room next to her office for the interview.

During the interview, a check was conducted on her mobile phone and incriminating communications were detected. Wang started to become uncooperative towards the man’s colleagues and requested to end the interview. When his colleagues left the room to avoid further agitating Wang, the officer tried to calm her down on his own. But Wang refused to calm down so he decided to end the interview, the court heard.

While he was packing his belongings, she asked him repeatedly to hand over the partially recorded statement, but he turned down her requests.

DPP Koh told the court: “The accused then got up from her seat and stood in front of the room’s door, which was the only exit. The accused closed the door and locked it, holding on to the door knob. “The accused threatened the (officer) that if he refused to hand over the statement to her, she would shout ‘molest’.” As a result of the threat, the officer gave the statement to Wang, who tore it up. After that, she opened the door to let him out.

https://www.straitstimes.com/singapore/courts-crime/woman-jailed-for-threatening-sfa-officer-with-molest-fined-for-illegally-importing-food

Trending Toward Dishonesty

The immediate triggers are common, but whether a woman makes false accusations of molest (or other sex crimes) boils down to her personality, character and her integrity.

Marc MacYoung profile of potential rapists
http://www.nononsenseselfdefense.com/profile.html

DARVO

DARVO (an acronym for “deny, attack, and reverse victim and offender”) is a reaction that perpetrators of wrongdoing, such as sexual offenders, may display in response to being held accountable for their behavior. Some researchers indicate that it is a common manipulation strategy of psychological abusers.

As the acronym suggests, the common steps involved are 1) the abuser denies the abuse ever took place, 2) when confronted with evidence, the abuser then attacks the person that was abused (and/or the person’s family and/or friends) for attempting to hold the abuser accountable for their actions, and finally 3) the abuser claims that they are actually the victim in the situation, thus reversing the positions of victim and offender. It often involves not just “playing the victim” but also victim blaming.

from https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/DARVO

What DARVO looks like:

a) from a sexually coercive male

b) from a dishonest woman exposed

c) from an authority figure to intimidate

https://www.vice.com/en/article/g5qxnb/sexual-abuse-investigation-national-university-singapore-nus

Background to that case https://www.straitstimes.com/singapore/nus-student-expelled-after-allegedly-filming-sexual-acts-with-two-students-without-their

Disorders That Increase Your Risk

Antisocial Personality Disorder: may make false accusations out of malice, to inflict punishment.

Borderline Personality Disorder: may make false accusations on impulse

Narcissistic Personality Disorder: may make false accusations in order to make themselves the hero and the victim in their personal fantasy world

More on the connection between Narcissistic Personality Disorder and false accusations at https://medium.com/illumination/why-does-a-covert-narcissist-make-such-crazy-accusations-38e80560c88c

Narcissistic Females Use False Allegations for Power Over Men Who Cannot Be Controlled

Antisocial Personality Disorder

A person with antisocial personality may

• exploit, manipulate or violate the rights of others
• lack concern, regret or remorse about other people’s distress
• behave irresponsibly and show disregard for normal social behaviour
• have difficulty sustaining long-term relationships
• be unable to control their anger
• lack guilt, or not learn from their mistakes
• blame others for problems in their lives
• repeatedly break the law

https://www.nhs.uk/mental-health/conditions/antisocial-personality-disorder/

Signs of Borderline Personality Disorder

• emotional instability – the psychological term for this is “affective dysregulation”
• disturbed patterns of thinking or perception – “cognitive distortions” or “perceptual distortions”
• impulsive behaviour
• intense but unstable relationships with others

https://www.nhs.uk/mental-health/conditions/borderline-personality-disorder/symptoms/

Signs of Narcissistic Personality Disorder

• Have an unreasonably high sense of self-importance and require constant, excessive admiration.
• Feel that they deserve privileges and special treatment.
• Expect to be recognized as superior even without achievements.
• Make achievements and talents seem bigger than they are.
• Be preoccupied with fantasies about success, power, brilliance, beauty or the perfect mate.
• Believe they are superior to others and can only spend time with or be understood by equally special people.
• Be critical of and look down on people they feel are not important.
• Expect special favors and expect other people to do what they want without questioning them.
• Take advantage of others to get what they want.
• Have an inability or unwillingness to recognize the needs and feelings of others.
• Be envious of others and believe others envy them.
• Behave in an arrogant way, brag a lot and come across as conceited.
• Insist on having the best of everything — for instance, the best car or office

https://www.mayoclinic.org/diseases-conditions/narcissistic-personality-disorder/symptoms-causes/syc-20366662#:~:text=Narcissistic%20personality%20disorder%20is%20a,about%20the%20feelings%20of%20others.

For an in-depth look at false accusations of sex crimes – https://centerforinquiry.org/blog/the_anatomy_of_false_accusations_a_skeptical_case_study/

Pathological liars – https://psychcentral.com/health/signs-pathological-liar

If you have a pattern of pathological lying, you may:

• lie indiscriminately about a wide range of topics
• tell untruths about minor events
• feel undeterred by the fear of getting caught
• experience a rush when you get away with lying
• continue to lie even when confronted with the truth

https://www.linkedin.com/pulse/compulsive-liar-vs-pathological-how-spot-them-what-do-

Lies That Make No Sense

• Lies that do not benefit them
• Lies that are easily exposed
• Ops Guy Story

Such a person is inherently dishonest. Getting close to such a person, whether for work (business) or personal (friendship/romance) is too dangerous

Affair With A Married Woman

If she can lie to her husband or other associates about you, she can just as easily lie about you to other people (including the police).

What Should You Do?

1) Get out of there

2) Keep records of both the bad and the good

• Physical Journal?
• Telegram Chats?
• Instagram Chats?
• Whatsapp to Self?
• Facebook posts (privacy set to self only)
• Screenshots?

Recommended Books for future study:

Emotional Vampires – Dealing with People Who Drain You Dry, Albert Bernstein

Snakes in Suits, Revised Edition: Understanding and Surviving the Psychopaths in Your Office, Paul Babiak PhD, Robert D. Hare PhD

Games Criminals Play: How You Can Profit by Knowing Them, Bud Allen, Diana Bosta

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Lying About Molest – Lesson 01

Preventing And Responding to False Accusations of Sex Crimes

What You Need to Know First

If you are falsely accused of molest, you could:

a) Be arrested and detained for up to 48 hours

b) See your career put on hold, damaged or totally destroyed

c) End up paying huge sums in legal fees

d) Face up to 3 years in jail and possible caning

And yet your accuser may likely get away scot-free for lying to the police about you

About Me – and why am I talking about False Accusations of Molest?

Disclaimers:

1) I am not a lawyer, and whatever I share here in this blog or in any of my video lessons should not be considered as legal advice. If you have already been accused of molest or other sex crimes, you need to get a lawyer and follow his/her instructions. What I share here will be useful for helping you understand how things came to that point and what you can do to help avoid such situations in the future. Lesson 06 will also be useful for giving you a sense of direction. But you will need a lawyer.

2) The laws, case studies and police procedures I bring up here are specific to Singapore. If you are from another country, the details I share will probably not be useful to you. Speak with a lawyer from your country to find out how much what I share here is applicable to you.

Section 354

354.—(1)  Whoever assaults or uses criminal force to any person, intending to outrage or knowing it to be likely that he will thereby outrage the modesty of that person, shall be punished with imprisonment for a term which may extend to 3 years, or with fine, or with caning, or with any combination of such punishments.

[Act 23 of 2021 wef 01/03/2022]

(2)  Whoever commits an offence under subsection (1) against any person below 14 years of age shall be punished with imprisonment for a term which may extend to 5 years, or with fine, or with caning, or with any combination of such punishments.

Some further explanations and comments are at https://jcplaw.com.sg/outrage-of-modesty/

Section 182

Whoever gives to any public servant any information which he knows or believes to be false, intending thereby to cause, or knowing it to be likely that he will thereby cause, such public servant to use the lawful power of such public servant to the injury or annoyance of any person, or to do or omit anything which such public servant ought not to, or would not, do or omit if the true state of facts respecting which such information is given were known by him, shall be punished with imprisonment for a term which may extend to 2 years, or with fine, or with both.

For further reading, you can look at https://www.singaporecriminaldefencelawyer.com/what-to-do-if-you-are-falsely-accused-of-molestation/

For further reading on the consequences of being accused of molest:

Today Online – Accused Persons Get No Sympathy

https://ignitemedia.blog/2021/08/24/lies-can-destroy-lives/

Chooi Jin Yenn – Sex Crimes, False Accusations and Trauma

Dr Yeo Sow Nam’s Experiences

Doctor Acquitted of Molesting Woman After She Admits to Lying In Court

About his personal life during the ordeal https://saltandlight.sg/work/it-was-beyond-bodily-pain-but-in-every-pain-there-is-gain-top-pain-specialist-who-was-acquitted-of-molestation-charges/

My own general blog posts on this topic:

False Molest Accusations – What is at Stake

Answering AWARE

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Lying About Molest – Answering AWARE

In the following article, Ms Shailey Hingorani, head of Research and Advocacy, AWARE, claims:

• People fear false sexual assault accusations even though the evidence does not support such fears as being justified.
• Harping on false accusations only makes it harder for the genuine victims to come forward to report their own abuse experiences

We Harp On False Sexual Assault Accusations Despite Evidence to the Contrary

My replies are detailed, so I added a TLDR summary for the points we need to consider. Unless otherwise stated, sections in italics are quoted from the article from AWARE.

“Forty-one per cent of all Singaporeans agreed or strongly agreed that false accusations of sexual harassment are a bigger problem in our society than unreported acts of sexual harassment.
…
On the other hand, under-reporting of sexual abuse remains pervasive. Seven out of 10 clients of AWARE’s Sexual Assault Care Centre (SACC) do not file an official report..”

Important:

These two situations are NOT mutually exclusive. Women who do not report genuine sexual abuse and women who falsely report sexual abuse are two radically different groups. It is entirely possible that the dishonest women will lie (and lie more frequently) while the honest women struggle with reporting the truth. Don’t confuse those two groups of women.

Anyone who has been in the real world long enough knows that dishonest women exist and they give hassle and grief to men and women alike.

TLDR: – You are not going to get the honest women to speak up by pretending the dishonest women do not exist or are too few in number to make a difference. But you will cause the honest people to suspect they will not be heard when it really matters.

1) Does the Evidence Really Say…

“Research for the United Kingdom’s Home Office in 2005 – believed to be the most comprehensive study of its kind to date – suggests only 4 per cent of cases of sexual violence reported to the UK police are found or suspected to be false. (Of the 216 assault complaints classified as false, only six led to arrest, and only two led to actual charges.)

Studies in Europe and in the US put these rates at between 2 per cent and 6 per cent.

In Singapore, according to the Ministry of Home Affairs, of the 250 reported cases of serious sexual crimes (rape and sexual assault by penetration) a year from 2014 to 2018, police charged or warned the complainants for making false reports in only 10 cases – comparable to the rate in the UK.”.

I cannot comment on the statistics from United Kingdom, Europe or the USA, since these studies may be conducted under different circumstances, using different definitions, therefore giving them different results. But we must not misinterpret the figures from the Ministry of Home Affairs. Those figures only say that out of 250 reported cases, the local police charged or warned the complainants for making false reports in only 10 cases. They do not claim that they received only 10 false reports out of 250, they only state that they chose to take action (charge or warn) in 10 out of 250 cases.

If you want to believe that the true rate for false accusations in Singapore is that low, you have to assert that the police charge or warn EVERY case where they know the accusation is false. That is incorrect. The police have the discretion to charge (or let slide) false accusations, as they do for all crimes reported to them.

TLDR: The real question: how often do the police know a false accusation has been made and yet choose not to take action against the accuser?

Put a push-pin on that, I’ll return to that later.

2) Gaslighting the Police

“Research has investigated the chasm between the high rates at which police officers believe false allegations to be made, and the actual low rates of false allegations. A 2005 study found that police officers in the UK believed half of cases to be false, a sharp contrast from the more accurate rate of 4 per cent (as per the Home Office study).”

Because I myself was falsely accused of molest and nearly arrested for it, I specifically sought out former policemen to get their insights and opinions. I met one who was involved with investigating sex crimes and asked him, within his experience, how often he has found women to be deliberately lying about molest. In his experience, there were MANY such cases where the complainant lied in the police report.

For an idea of ground level figures from USA, Marc MacYoung (a crime prevention expert) spoke informally with sex crimes investigators and asked them, from their personal experience, what percentage of the cases they’ve worked on do they think were false. Police investigators with the weight of the legal system behind them, with specialized training and experience in investigating sex crimes gave numbers ranging from 30% to 50%.

Mr MacYoung goes into more detail and makes his point at

http://macyoungsmusings.blogspot.com/2016/04/false-rape-allegations.html

It is clear that whether we are looking at the sample of figures from the United States, the United Kingdom (quoted by Ms Hingorani ) or even the anecdotal account from my experience, the police at ground level believe sexual assault accusations to be false in possibly up to 50% of the cases. Definitely much more often than the 2-4% figure we are expected to swallow.

Bear in mind those policemen (and -women) have met with, talked with and investigated both the women who lie AND the men they lie about. For every accusation made, they have to look for both evidence that supports the accusation AND evidence that disproves it, and weigh the testimony and evidence accordingly. They have access to the full weight of the courts to demand evidence, crime forensic experts to evaluate and interpret the evidence thus received, and much more trained manpower to devote to the entire process.

By comparison, the average counsellor in AWARE does not have the resources (whether manpower or expertise) to investigate if the women who approach them for counseling are actually telling the truth or just looking for people to validate their creative writing of sob stories.

TLDR: Who do you think would know better how frequently false accusations occur? Official figures or the police actively out in the field investigating crimes?

3) Honest vs Dishonest Women

“But when it comes to sexual violence, a crime that is heavily gendered, with victim-survivors being overwhelmingly female, the lingering stain of misogyny is hard to scrub away. Tropes about lying, untrustworthy women have long been deployed to discredit those who would challenge the status quo.”

Honest women fear not being believed when they report abuse (sexual or otherwise). Dishonest women have no such fear. Honest men fear being falsely accused. Genuine sex predators have no such fear. AWARE would, of course, be aware that the majority of sexual abuse is committed by men known, with some longstanding relationship or connection, to the victim. They could be family members, colleagues, or even “friends” from common hobbies, social circles or interests. You can assume that the predator has already groomed the victim in some way to be vulnerable to abuse and exploitation. That therefore makes it harder for victims to make official reports against them. Also, there is a chance that because of previous brushes with the law, these predators are better able to exploit openings and squirm their way out of such accusations.

TLDR: – We cannot lump the honest and dishonest people together. It is utter stupidity to dismiss the danger of dishonest people (men or women) just because there are honest people around. We don’t do that when raising awareness of men committing sexual crimes against women. When AWARE brings up issues of criminals preying sexually upon women, do we claim such problems do not exist (or are exaggerated) because honest people are disadvantaged by false accusations? Or do we know that these are two entirely different matters, dealt with differently, and therefore should not be conflated?

4) Is this Bait-and-Switch?

“Making an accusation of sexual abuse is often onerous and traumatising for survivors with plenty of hard evidence on hand.

Considering this, it’s mind-boggling why anyone would entertain the idea that many women are expending significant effort, time and money, and subjecting themselves to cross-examination, investigations that can last well over a year, and public backlash, for some sort of ill-defined personal gain.”

Making an accusation of sexual abuse is traumatising for genuine victims, no doubt about it. But in the next sentence Ms Hingorani insinuates that it is equally traumatising for dishonest women falsely accusing men of sex crimes.

No, it is not. Not even anywhere close. To even hint at it is a slap in the face of women who suffered sexual assaults and have bravely stepped up to report their victimization to the police.

Make no mistake, the process of reporting sex crimes is horrible for genuine victims. It is obvious that at that exact moment, this woman needs sympathy, people to share in the depths of her emotional pain and hurt. And no matter how soothing or tactful the investigators may be, they cannot do that.

“I have to remind myself to remain composed, impartial and of course objective in my investigation, as much as there are a lot of emotions involved in the cases,” – ASP Chiu (from the Serious Sexual Crime Branch)

https://www.channelnewsasia.com/singapore/police-investigate-serious-sexual-crimes-rape-assault-spf-2368511

The police have to stay as neutral as possible. If they don’t, their emotions could cloud their judgment and hinder the investigations directly before them. In the long run the investigators themselves could become emotionally damaged and burned out. Very likely this neutrality causes victims of sex crimes to imagine that the police do not believe them, and thus further amplifies the soul shattering loneliness they are already experiencing.

Meanwhile, the police investigators need to repeatedly comb through the victim’s story. The odds are that her attacker has committed similar attacks before, and would be ready to cover his tracks. If the attacker had previous brushes with the law, he would have some idea how to squirm his way out of trouble. And that is before we consider his lawyer, who will systematically attack the victim’s credibility in court to have his client acquitted. Experienced investigators anticipate all this and try to cover all the possibilities, to cut off the possible excuses serial predators may use to escape punishment..

This crucial part of the police investigation is the most traumatic of all. Sometimes the woman will experience physical symptoms of distress (surge in heart rate, sweating). Sometimes she may even have flashbacks, when she experiences the attack as happening to her again, right here, right now. Flashbacks can be so real to her that she is mentally and emotionally transported back in time and place and assaulted yet again. Molest? Rape? Rape and physical beating? Rape and torture? This is what the victim might vividly relive every time the investigators relook different aspects of her testimony to clarify or get more details on them.

https://www.verywellmind.com/re-experiencing-2797325

Put yourself in the shoes of the police: on one hand you have a woman who is suffering in ways you cannot imagine every time you need to ask her detailed questions about her ordeal, on the other hand you need those details so you can try your best to get her attacker off the streets so he cannot attack her or other women ever again.

When Ms Hingorani spoke about the trauma survivors of sex crimes face when they report their crimes (never mind testify in court), this is what she means. However, women who are only making up stories for the police (and getting innocent men arrested for it) experience NO such trauma.

Not at all.

TLDR: – Therefore the reporting and investigation process is traumatising only to survivors of sexual assaults, not to the women who practice creative writing to make up stories for their police reports to get innocent men arrested.

5) Ill-defined personal gain?

“Considering this, it’s mind-boggling why anyone would entertain the idea that many women are expending significant effort, time and money, and subjecting themselves to cross-examination, investigations that can last well over a year, and public backlash, for some sort of ill-defined personal gain.”

What are the motivations of women who make false accusations of sex crimes? Is it as vague and ill-defined as Ms Hingorani believes? Let’s look at a few case studies.

a) Lovedeep Kuar

“The couple began arguing when he tried to explain his intentions, before Mrs Singh confronted Lovedeep. Lovedeep called the police a few minutes later. When officers arrived at the scene, she told them that before Mrs Singh got home, Mr Singh had molested her. In light of the allegations, a senior investigation officer went to the flat to interview them at about 11pm.

During the interview, Lovedeep claimed that Mr Singh had squeezed her breasts, slid his hands down to her buttocks and told her to have sex with him while she was in th ee shower. She further alleged that she rejected his advances and he left the bathroom when he heard someone opening the main door. Mr Singh was then arrested and taken to the Tanglin Police Division headquarters. He was released only the following afternoon after assisting in investigations.”

https://www.todayonline.com/singapore/woman-jailed-10-days-lying-police-her-landlord-molested-her

From the article, we can see that Ms Kaur was caught in the middle of distressing argument between her landlord and his wife. The dispute was intense enough for Ms Kaur to call the police. Clearly, Ms Kaur made her false accusations of molest in an attempt to get herself out of that situation.

b) Against Dr Yeo Sow Nam

Timeline of Events

27 Sep 2017 – at a business dinner with the accuser and her colleague, Dr Yeo asked the accuser for dilution ratios and medical literature for a product the accuser wished to have him purchase from the company she represented as a salesperson.

28 Sep 2017 – the accuser missed the meeting she had agreed upon with Dr Yeo.

9 Oct 2017 – the accuser met with Dr Yeo but failed to bring the promised medical literature. She was berated severely as a result.

12 Oct 2017 – the accuser made a police report accusing Dr Yeo of molesting her on 9 Oct 2017.

https://www.theonlinecitizen.com/2021/08/18/prosecution-withdraws-charges-against-spore-doctor-accused-of-molestation-after-alleged-victim-confessed-to-lying-during-cross-examination/

From the above we can reasonably guess the accuser’s motivations. She knew Dr Yeo was unhappy with how she did her job, and she sought to move the attention away from her work performance to something else. (It also gave her an excuse she might give her company, that the doctor complained about her not because of tardiness and work mistakes, but because she rebuffed his sexual advances.)

c) Dina Melina

“A maid who could not repay a $1,000 loan that she received from her employer’s father-in-law agreed to have sex with him to pay it off. Later, Dina Melina tried to extort money from the father-in-law, Abu Bakar Bin Along, by impersonating Abu Bakar’s daughter-in-law and threatening to expose the sexual relationship between him and the maid.

When that failed, Melina, a 32-year-old Indonesian, lodged a police report on two separate occasions, alleging that Abu Bakar, a 70-year-old Singaporean, had raped her in one report and that he touched her body from behind without her consent in another.”

https://sg.news.yahoo.com/maid-admits-falsely-accusing-employers-father-rape-police-report-114928037.html

In this case, we can see that Melina made the police reports out of malice, either revenge over Mr Bakar not giving in to her extortion attempts, or maybe even to head off any police reports Mr Bakar might have made over her attempt at fraud and extortion.

d) The Wang Shu Case

We also have to remember that dishonest women can make threats of false accusations to compel men into submission or to cover up for their crimes.

Deputy Public Prosecutor Emily Koh said that on Oct 29, 2020, the SFA officer and two colleagues went to Wang’s Pandan Loop office to investigate the case.

Wang was asked to provide her statement regarding the illegal food products. She agreed and invited the officers to a room next to her office for the interview.

Wang started to become uncooperative towards the man’s colleagues and requested to end the interview. When his colleagues left the room to avoid further agitating Wang, the officer tried to calm her down on his own.

But Wang refused to calm down so he decided to end the interview, the court heard.

While he was packing his belongings, she asked him repeatedly to hand over the partially recorded statement, but he turned down her requests.

DPP Koh told the court: “The accused then got up from her seat and stood in front of the room’s door, which was the only exit. The accused closed the door and locked it, holding on to the door knob.

“The accused threatened the (officer) that if he refused to hand over the statement to her, she would shout ‘molest’.”

As a result of the threat, the officer gave the statement to Wang, who tore it up. After that, she opened the door to let him out.

https://www.straitstimes.com/singapore/courts-crime/woman-jailed-for-threatening-sfa-officer-with-molest-fined-for-illegally-importing-food

The Wang Shu case came to light because the man threatened was a public servant, and was in the midst of conducting an official investigation into her misdeeds. The fact that she defaulted so easily to such threats and intimidating behaviour suggests that she has done such things before, and this was probably the first time it ever blew up in her face. But how many other innocent men did she silence or coerce with such threats before she was caught?

So if AWARE is unaware of the reasons why forty-one per cent of Singaporeans surveyed in 2019 consider false accusations of sexual harassment a more serious problem than unreported sexual harassment, I’d suggest the possibility that they know of women like Wang Shu who cynically exploit and threaten men by using society’s desire to protect women from sexual predation.

TLDR: – From these four case studies, we can see that a dishonest woman may resort to false accusations of sex crimes when she is in the midst of an intense dispute, trying to deflect attention away from her own professional failings or even as a pre-emptive strike against a man who has already caught her committing another crime. All these are obviously NOT farfetched or ill-defined motivations or goals.

And that is before we consider women who are bi-polar, pathological liars or suffering from some form of narcissistic personality issues or borderline personality disorder.

In my opinion, an innocent man is under the greatest threat of such false accusations when he has caught a woman in the act of a crime, whether it be fraud, extortion or wrongful confinement. A woman who has already been caught in a crime may easily see making a false molest or rape accusation against that man as her get-out-of-jail-free card, yes?

Which brings us to the next question…

6) Get Out Of Jail Free

“The fact is that the criminal justice system in Singapore is well-positioned to weed out false reports, no matter how few they may be. The police take a serious view of the waste of public investigative resources.”

Both Ms Hingorani and the Singapore Police Force stop short of claiming that the police will actively investigate women who make false accusations and charge them for such crimes.

Again, of the 250 reported cases of serious sexual crimes (rape and sexual assault by penetration) a year from 2014 to 2018, police charged or warned the complainants for making false reports in only 10 cases. Question: what did the Singapore Police Force do with the rest of the cases of false reports? Because it is a cruel mockery of justice to merely mouth empty words and yet let the women who commit such crimes get away scot-free.

The danger is real

If you are falsely accused, especially of molest, you can be arrested on the word of the woman alone. You face up to 48 hours taken away from your work and family, confined in the police lock-up. When you are finally interviewed by the Serious Sexual Crimes Branch, you could be handcuffed to a bar during questioning (good luck digging through your phone for chat records to clear your name then). Your mind might be racing in a thousand directions, thinking that this all must be just a huge mistake, a tragic misunderstanding of some sort.

Nope, it isn’t.

Your accuser is deliberately attempting to humiliate you, dehumanize you and subject you to the massive personal, financial and emotional cost of answering to the legal system for something you did not do. It is hostility and malice directed at you. Speaking frankly, your accuser wants you to suffer, and she is using the weight of the Singapore Police Force and our courts to do it.

If the investigations proceed, you could find your career (and the rest of your life) put on hold or even ruined. Mr Chooi Jing Yen (of Eugene Thuraisingam LLP) says your passport can confiscated by the police so you cannot travel. You may be submitted to a polygraph test and go through several police interrogations. You have to report to the police monthly for bail. And if the case goes to trial you are looking at potentially crippling legal fees. Remember, Dr Yeo Sow Nam spent $600,000 in legal fees over 4 years.

How many of us have that kind of money set aside just in case?

And in return, the woman who accused you falsely faces a potential jail term of around two weeks, IF the Singapore Police Force decides to investigate and subsequently charge her for her crimes. But will they even make that token effort in the first place?

What Happened To Me

I was falsely accused of molest on 19 Oct 2020. I gave only one statement on this to the Serious Sexual Crimes Branch on that night itself, and on 16 Feb 2021 I was informed that the SPF was not investigating me over this accusation. Obviously my statement (and corroborating evidence) showed the police clearly my accuser made a false report. But in response to my direct question, the Investigation Officer, Senior Staff Sergeant Bai Qian Hui, refused to take action against my accuser. The excuse? “You weren’t arrested.”

I made a separate police report on 22 Apr 2021, detailing various untruths that came out in accusation on 19 Oct 2020 and how I disproved them. An Investigation Officer with the surname of Teo called me that day to claim that my accuser retracted her accusation after the police “clarified the terms” with her that night. That was a lie. My accuser maintained her accusation when initially interviewed by the Serious Sexual Crimes Branch. If she retracted it, it was only after the police who interviewed me confronted her with all the evidence I showed them after they informed me they were arresting me.

My Member of Parliament (God bless her soul) wrote in to the SPF to request that the police actually investigate the case. Though a high ranking officer from that department later called me to inform me that investigations would commence (24 May 2021), it was only after nearly three months after my police report that I was invited to the Police Station for them to take my statement. On two separate occasions, TWO high ranking officers from that department tried to mislead me by claiming that there was no accusation of molest made that night. Both had no answer when I reminded them that the Serious Sexual Crimes Branch was present that night, they informed me of the accusation and took my statement. One such officer was Inspector Muhammad Asrin Kamaruddin; he just ended the conversation and left the interview room (16 July 2021); the other officer was Sulaiman Raji Mohamad, (Chief Investigation Officer); he hurriedly changed the topic during the subsequent phone call on 2 Nov 2021.

(details, including audio from the phone conversation with Sulaiman on 2 Nov 2021, are posted at https://shunketsu.wordpress.com/2024/03/31/obstruction-of-justice-public-statement/)

And thus the Singapore Police Force slammed shut the case.

Without taking any action at all against my accuser.

Not even a token warning.

Does this show the serious view the SPF takes of such a waste of public investigative resources? Or do actions speak louder than words?

Does This Happen Often?

Maybe my case was a fluke? Do we have anything that suggests that the Singapore Police Force consistently refuses to take action against women who make false accusations of sex crimes?

Meet Ms Nursyafiqah Jasmi, a police Staff Sergeant who was caught for falsely accusing her colleague (a policeman) of molesting her.

https://www.todayonline.com/singapore/married-police-officer-falsely-accuses-colleague-lover-molest-1944151

A) Ms Nursyafiqah Jasmi is not a noob in the police force. She is a staff sergeant who was awarded the Minister for Home Affairs Star Service Award in 2017. She obviously is well-versed in the law and also very experienced with the investigation procedures and practices of the Singapore Police Force

B) She accused her colleague, who, being a policeman, would know how to state his own case clearly to those investigating him. He would of course not make the common mistakes laymen may stumble into when talking with the police.

C) Most tellingly, she left inside her mobile phone the text messages that would prove to the police she was lying. It seems clear to me she did not expect the police to actually take action against her if she was caught lying. Or else why leave incriminating evidence around, yes?

Question: over the many years Ms Nursyafiqah served in the Singapore Police Force, how many times did she see other women get away with lying to the police over sex crimes before she concluded that she herself could do the same?

Conclusion:

Do innocent men have reason to fear false accusations? Yes. We risk severe, lasting damage for such accusations, even if we eventually manage to prove our innocence. We suspect (or know) the Singapore Police Force will not take action against our accusers for committing such crimes against us, so we have practically no legal recourse. And we have the official figures and advocacy groups such as AWARE who try to make us believe dishonest women either do not exist or are not worth our attention.

Looking at that, innocent men know we are on our own when faced with such malice. Does our society fear false accusations of sex crimes unduly? Or are we burying our heads in the sand and ignoring this threat, hoping it will leave us alone if we pretend it doesn’t exist?

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